Shine your light on me

23 Dec
Wearing a green flower dress in my garden

This little number transitioned seamlessly from summer to winter

Owl necklace

Ode to Clash of The Titans


This morning I woke up at 4:15 a.m., coughing. Rather than putting my husband through the Hell that is your partner coughing incessantly next to you, I got out of bed, threw a zinc lozenge in my mouth and spent some quality time with my laptop.

I started thinking about the independent fashion and lifestyle community. How much support and kindness there is out there. I reflected back to a time when life was more competitive amongst women around me. When I was younger and I felt that any woman who had something interesting to offer was immediately a threat subject to character dissection until proven worthy of friendship. A dubious task at best. You can imagine how few made the cut.

It appalls me that this had been my reality. We all collect baggage on our path from toddler to young adult and into maturity. Some we inherit as it’s passed down from generation to generation. We’re also equipped with the ability to shed some of this baggage, which I happen to think is one of the most significant things about developing self-awareness and choosing our evolutionary path.

Who do you want to be? How are you getting there? Have you put an army of support together to help on your journey?

I wish I could tell all women, young and old, this truth: That there is room for all of us in the world to shine. That unity makes us stronger, that we can learn from each other. Whether it be as simple and as superficial as taking note of how someone with beautiful hair styles and cares for it to watching and supporting a friend who’s decided to overcome her fear of advanced math and conquer it. My life-long friend from high school recently decided to this, I can’t tell you how proud I am of her.

When you see another woman in your life succeed, use it to energize your spirit and inspire you to keep trying. When you see a woman comfortable with her beauty take note of what makes her beautiful; it’s likely to be that her capacity for love and compassion, humor and perseverance is what makes her truly shine

Don’t limit your judgment of beauty to a dress size or flawless skin. Life is so much richer than that.

I find myself grateful to have taken a new step in my life with this blog and that I found support from complete strangers. The encouragement I have received says so much about who each one of you are, what you carry in your heart and that you fundamentally believe that there is room for each one of us to shine.

There is no hero. There is no idol. We are more beautiful and interesting collectively; together we make up the different colors, shapes and patterns of a unique weave, the different harmonies of one song. So go ahead, dip your toes in the water of confidence. Embrace the trial and errors, pick yourself up and give it another go. Ask for a hand if you need it, the universe wants you to succeed.

This is your time to shine.


Deets: Green watercolor dress/H&M, green cashmere pullover/Bloomingdale’s, owl necklace/Urban Outfitters, ivory knitted tights/Hue, aqua legwarmers/unknown, grey faux cowboy boots/ModCloth, infinity scarf/hand-knitted by Stacy.


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  1. amatutare

    December 25, 2010 at 11:36 am

    Great post! I'm glad I've read this today.
    I agree with you, there's no need for competition between women when we can transform all that in inspiration and create something meaningful. =)

  2. the Citizen Rosebud

    December 26, 2010 at 6:16 pm

    Amen, sister!

  3. Katie

    December 27, 2010 at 5:02 pm

    Gorgeous outfit… gorgeous thinking. I absolutely love this. :)

  4. Jilliebeanie

    December 28, 2010 at 11:01 am

    Hi there! Was just following along on an FBFF discussion and saw your link. So glad I clicked! You have great style…both for your clothes and your blog.

  5. Ashe Mischief

    December 28, 2010 at 4:23 pm

    "When I was younger and I felt that any woman who had something interesting to offer was immediately a threat subject to character dissection until proven worthy of friendship. A dubious task at best. You can imagine how few made the cut."

    God, I remember those days. I hate that some women don't grow out of it, but it's so much more rewarding when you can, and you can realize women are these incredible, powerful beings to have in your life…

  6. La Historiadora de Moda

    December 29, 2010 at 10:12 am

    I just came across your blog via FBFF and I'm very glad that I did! This post really resonated with me. When I was younger, I was very competitive and easily threatened (and not just by other women). I still feel some of that in some aspects of my life, but I'm glad that for the most part I'd rather share and support these days.

    I love the vibrant colors here!

  7. Sherry Jarwin

    December 29, 2010 at 10:38 am

    Thank you for the best gift you have just given me in words. Happy New Year!

  8. Sherry Jarwin

    December 29, 2010 at 10:46 am

    Hello – I tried to figure out a way to ask if I could use the text from your blog but I couldn't figure it out… sorry – new to blogging. So I gave you credit and posted this most inspiring message above. If you would like me to remove it, I am happy to do so… please feel free to contact me and see what I put in my blog.

  9. Cate

    December 30, 2010 at 5:31 pm

    i love that you posted about this. i'm at the stage where i'm still going through this, but i'm mature enough t realize that i'm being silly. i agree with ashe mishief. it's sad that some women can't grow out of it, but it feels amazing when you know that you have and you've gained the confidence for it to no longer be an issue.

  10. Leah B.

    December 30, 2010 at 6:01 pm

    I love that you posted this. Do you mind if I take an excerpt and then link back to you? This is the sort of message that needs to be heard by women, as far and wide as possible. Too many times, we seem to try to cut each other down instead of appreciating one another, and building up. I think we need this kind of shining, supportive example for one another to become much more mainstream than it is today.

  11. bubblycaty

    January 3, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    Hello! I really liked your post, it says exactly what I feel about competition between women and about our own insecurities that mislead us, I really admire and agree with your point of view, we should all think like that. keep up!

  12. Kaitlynn

    January 3, 2011 at 10:47 pm

    Thank you for this post, it totally brightened up my evening!

  13. Judy

    January 5, 2011 at 1:09 am


    Really amazing post! I agree with what you say about how we are beautiful collectively. I'm def passing this post along.


    p.s. loving the way you rock that dress

  14. Fabienne Jach

    January 7, 2011 at 6:03 pm

    I'm humbled and flattered by your comments! And mostly, I'm inspired to keep perpetuating all this goodness we have within us.

    (Better commenting system to come soon, I promise)

  15. Joy

    February 24, 2011 at 4:50 am

    Wow, Fabienne — I often feel as if I’m the only women who has experienced this:

    “. I reflected back to a time when life was more competitive amongst women around me.”

    When I was younger I had the worst time finding loyal female friends. I blamed myself. (Probably because I watched the “Secret” one too many times and beleived that I am solely responsible for everything in my life). I couldn’t figure out why I would attract this to my life.

    Well, I’ve stopped blaming myself and started blogging. A bit late, but better than never.

    What you share in this post resonates with me – thank you!

    On to a more important subject – ;)
    Another beautiful ensemble! Seriously, I love your use of color – the blues & greens and your accessories – stunning!
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  16. Sherry Jarwin

    April 1, 2011 at 10:03 pm

    This is just what I needed to hear tonight. Not only do I have to struggle with women feeling threatened by me, I also have to deal with it at work with men. Actually, it is the men at work that have the biggest issue with me being in any position of authority and I work in a forward thinking tech company. It really is sad and a commentary on the human condition desiring power and control vs. servanthood to each other via love and compassion. It doesn’t have to be so hard – we all need support to be who we are meant to be. So, as women, my support group is united. I have to deal with the men… sigh. As you can tell I was very inspired to thought from your post. Cheers!

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