This morning I woke up at 4:15 a.m., coughing. Rather than putting my husband through the Hell that is your partner coughing incessantly next to you, I got out of bed, threw a zinc lozenge in my mouth and spent some quality time with my laptop.
I started thinking about the independent fashion and lifestyle community. How much support and kindness there is out there. I reflected back to a time when life was more competitive amongst women around me. When I was younger and I felt that any woman who had something interesting to offer was immediately a threat subject to character dissection until proven worthy of friendship. A dubious task at best. You can imagine how few made the cut.
It appalls me that this had been my reality. We all collect baggage on our path from toddler to young adult and into maturity. Some we inherit as it’s passed down from generation to generation. We’re also equipped with the ability to shed some of this baggage, which I happen to think is one of the most significant things about developing self-awareness and choosing our evolutionary path.
Who do you want to be? How are you getting there? Have you put an army of support together to help on your journey?
I wish I could tell all women, young and old, this truth: That there is room for all of us in the world to shine. That unity makes us stronger, that we can learn from each other. Whether it be as simple and as superficial as taking note of how someone with beautiful hair styles and cares for it to watching and supporting a friend who’s decided to overcome her fear of advanced math and conquer it. My life-long friend from high school recently decided to this, I can’t tell you how proud I am of her.
When you see another woman in your life succeed, use it to energize your spirit and inspire you to keep trying. When you see a woman comfortable with her beauty take note of what makes her beautiful; it’s likely to be that her capacity for love and compassion, humor and perseverance is what makes her truly shine
Don’t limit your judgment of beauty to a dress size or flawless skin. Life is so much richer than that.
I find myself grateful to have taken a new step in my life with this blog and that I found support from complete strangers. The encouragement I have received says so much about who each one of you are, what you carry in your heart and that you fundamentally believe that there is room for each one of us to shine.
There is no hero. There is no idol. We are more beautiful and interesting collectively; together we make up the different colors, shapes and patterns of a unique weave, the different harmonies of one song. So go ahead, dip your toes in the water of confidence. Embrace the trial and errors, pick yourself up and give it another go. Ask for a hand if you need it, the universe wants you to succeed.
This is your time to shine.
Deets: Green watercolor dress/H&M, green cashmere pullover/Bloomingdale’s, owl necklace/Urban Outfitters, ivory knitted tights/Hue, aqua legwarmers/unknown, grey faux cowboy boots/ModCloth, infinity scarf/hand-knitted by Stacy.