Archive for January 7th, 2011

FBFF Q&A: Comparing ourselves

07 Jan
Une Very Stylish Fille and I, making friends with the camera.

My husband played his “Best Hubby” card today and took me to Diamond Peak. Though still on vacation, I was ho-humming my way around our cabin this morning. He decided to cheer me up by taking me snowboarding, which totally worked, of course. That kind of sacrifice deserved action on my part so I spent the better part of two hours practicing riding switch, (backwards), doing 180′s and taking as many small jumps as possible.

Did I mention how much I love my new board? Yes, it’s love. True love.

But wait, there’s more. I’ve resolved to getting bolder about asking people if I can take pictures of their street style, even on the slopes. There was a Japanese gal in front of our car wearing the most awesome jeggings, and trust me, I’m not one to match up “awesome” and “jeggings” often in a single sentence but these were reminiscent of a dark, starry night. Indigo blue with gold sparkles in the fabric, a simple pocket detail and a matching cap in a fat sparkly deep grey knit. I want a pair, or at least the cap.

A couple nights ago was Avalanche Lounge at the cabin. We got all dressed up and drank fancy cocktails, all prepared by my very own hubby, Fil. He plans the menu weeks in advance, buys the freshest ingredients and spends the afternoon preparing the garnishes. This is as fancy I got this week. It was pretty fancy!

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Moving along to Friend Friday. This is my opportunity to think about and answer some questions. The theme this week is about how and whether we compare our blogs to others. How do we measure up? Let’s see.

FBFF: have you ever looked at someone’s blog and thought yours would never measure up?
FJ: No, I have two thoughts on that. The first is that there’s nothing I can’t do, only what I don’t yet know how to do. I know, it sounds arrogant. Look, I learned how to snowboard well and it was not pretty at first. I can get twenty people to testify that I didn’t stand a chance when I started. And some hospital visits to back that statement. I stuck with it and it gave me a confidence that can never be erased.

The second is that I think in the same way that there is someone for everyone, there’s an audience for any blog. Having said that, I let the blogs that I respect inspire me. I’m not trying to be them, I want to be my very own version of that excellence.

FBFF: Do you, or did you, feel pressure to meet some kind of undefined standard for fashion bloggers?
FJ: At first I wasn’t sure what readers would be interested in but getting my feet wet with the 30 for 30 remix gave me thirty days to get a feel for it. I’m a perfectionist by nature but I’ve learned to be easier on myself. I see so much diversity in the world of blogging, I equate this with opportunity. The older I get, the less I worry about being awesome or cool. I’m me, you’re either on board or you’re not. I hope readers dig what I’m sharing, because that’s all I’m doing: Sharing. And I like it.  It’s really fun being an absolute beginner!*

FBFF: Many established fashion bloggers are also extraordinary DIYers, bakers and crafty people. Do you think you need to combine all these things to be successful at blogging.
FJ: No. I think all you need to express your passion in the most personally eloquent manner possible. Keep your standards high but be realistic. I’m always amazed at those women who can do everything. They raise the bar so high! It’s fantastic inspiration but I don’t feel the pressure to live someone else’s definition of great. There’s a lot in my life that doesn’t make it to my blog that keeps my life awesome so it’s ok if I’m not out there knitting a car cozy in the spare time I don’t have. (How awesome would that be, though? A car cozy = awesome!) I’ve learned that doing a little all the time is a much more effective way to be satisfied with how much I accomplish over the course of my life. That’s what is working for me at the moment. Just focusing on the journey, baby!

FBFF: The most successful blogs are the ones that have their own personal voice – how are you developing your voice or did you find yours?
FJ: Anyone who knows me would say that this would probably not be a challenge for me. I’m pretty outgoing and feel like my personality is the most ownable asset I have. I can copy anyone, I can focus on perfecting my grammar but if you don’t get a sense of my silliness, my sense of humor, my personal take on life, it’s not me. Defining how that comes across through a blog is the greater challenge, but you know, I’m always up for a good challenge. 

FBFF: Toot your own horn… What’s the one thing you do that is unique to you and your blog? What gives your blog an edge?
FJ: I wouldn’t call it an edge, but there’s only one of me. You get a taste of life through my eyes, it may not be for everyone but it’s not likely to get boring any time soon. I’m always up to something and I’ve always got a tale to tell.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for putting together these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

* I just had to go there, Bowie defined my teens. He might actually have been one of my very first style icons.

Deets: Black sheer dress/Georgiou, black cloche hat, Goorin bros., drop earrings/gifted, necklace/Claire’s Boutique, shearling scarf/unknown in Paris, black gloves/Nordstrom’s, Telene with pink hair/friend!