FBFF Q&A: Body Image

17 Feb

Pounding rain means indoor photos

Make mine a mini

Hoo, hoo…

We hide behind our computers, our faces lit by the light of the screen while we type first thing in the morning, after work and before bed. Sometimes encroaching on that treasured sleep. Then, some of us post pictures of ourselves; we edit, scrutinize and approve how the world will see us. The phenomenon of blogging is fascinating. This genre, this tiny niche of style bloggers is varied and diverse. We oscillate between the written word and imagery, sometimes showing preference to one over the other. How does it all add up? What role does it play in how we see ourselves?

This is the topic of this week’s discussion.

FBFF: Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed?

FJ: Yes. Taking pictures of myself almost every day made me realize that my perception of myself is a little skewed. The mirror doesn’t capture me in an active state. While I may be posing, the camera is capturing me when I can’t actually see myself, it doesn’t care what I’m doing, it just captures it. Sometimes it’s worse than what I see, other times it’s better.

FBFF: Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself? If so, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway?

FJ: Yes, but I accept it for the most part. I don’t draw attention to it by calling it out on my blog because the same way that I don’t notice what other people are often self-conscious about, I assume most people don’t notice what I’m self-conscious about. Why draw attention to it? I wouldn’t necessarily call it being self-conscious, more like self-aware. I don’t care that my teeth are crooked and I have an impressive overbite and that sometimes it makes my lips look funny. (See, now I told you!)

I will not post a picture where those attributes distract from what I do like. Do you want to look at my teeth or my outfit? Besides, those traits exists. They’re the way my friends see my face, everyone is used to it. I’m the only one who cares and gets surprised by it over and over again. “Hey! That’s not really how I look!” Actually, it is. When the camera takes a picture of me with that stupid expression, guess what? I make that face all the time and just can’t see it. You just gotta laugh about stuff like that, what can you do?

FBFF: Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image?

FJ: I’m fascinated by the changes. I sometimes try to imagine what I will look like when I’m much older. I think I will have the same happy eyes, the same strong nose, lots of sun spots and happy wrinkles. I hope I always give myself the nutrition, sleep, love and lifestyle that keeps my perspective healthy. I think my perspective is pretty good now.

FBFF: Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision?

FJ: I’ve gotten a lot less self-conscious about it pretty fast. In a way, blogging is license to pose. If I’m in public, well, of course I’m posing for a shot, I have a blog. Little mind games are funny that way. But seriously, I try to have a sense of humor about it. I know that when I don’t photograph well it’s when I’m not feeling well either in my body or my head. The remedy is almost always more sleep and exercise. It’s also made me more accepting of what my good and bad attributes are. I was already that way but the process is definitely an accelerant.

FBFF: What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?

FJ: No one is perfect, no one is above self-scrutiny. If you strive to improve, do it with a gentle loving touch because you’re going to be at it all your life. Self-improvement, body image perception, these are not phases. We live with our bodies until we expire. Be accepting of what you can’t change. Those differences are what set us apart and make us unique. Be cool and enjoy yourself. Your life is good.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting these questions based on my suggestion (yay!). Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

As I mentioned earlier, it’s Go Red for Women month. Some of us bloggers were inspired by fellow blogger Andie to participate in bringing awareness to heart disease in women by wearing red on Fridays. I finally got my red in on time. This 80′s dress from eBay was such a find. I wore it previously like this, this time I wore it with the cowl neck hanging asymmetrically and the waist belted. I made this dress a mini-dress! I put it in the challenge because I knew it would be a challenge to find different ways to wear it. It’s so unique. And I always like a good challenge.

Deets: vintage dress/eBay, black tights/unknown, vegan faux cowboy boots/ModCloth, owl necklace/Urban Outfitters, black belt/unknown.

Photos: Euan Rannachan


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  1. Ofelia

    February 17, 2011 at 8:37 pm

    I really enjoy reading this post! So many of us can related to your answers!
    Also great outfit! Want those boots!
    Have a great day, hopefully it will stop raining!
    Ofelia recently posted..Fashion Influences 1

  2. vonnie

    February 17, 2011 at 10:31 pm

    this: “No one is perfect, no one is above self-scrutiny. If you strive to improve, do it with a gentle loving touch because you’re going to be at it all your life. Self-improvement, body image perception, these are not phases. We live with our bodies until we expire. Be accepting of what you can’t change. Those differences are what set us apart and make us unique. Be cool and enjoy yourself. Your life is good.”

    is BRILLIANT. it should go in books, on tshirts, and be a slogan. i loved it
    vonnie recently posted..Friend Friday – The Girl in the Mirror Body Image

  3. Mrs Bossa

    February 18, 2011 at 12:51 am

    What an uplifting post! I feel quite ashamed of mine now… ;)

    I love what you said about ‘being surprised over and over again’ by an element of yourself – perhaps I should take more photos of myself, not less.

    Bookmarking this post!
    Mrs Bossa recently posted..Friend Friday- Body Image


    February 18, 2011 at 1:16 am

    Very wise answers , my friend.
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  5. Laura Connell

    February 18, 2011 at 7:09 am

    I love the colour blocking on that dress! At first I though it was a sweater and skirt. It’s important to not that our so-called flaws can be most endearing part of us. I can’t remember her name but there is a new young model who has huge teeth with a big gap and that is her trademark, the reason she is famous. It’s quite beautiful.
    Laura Connell recently posted..Fashion and feminism

  6. Lo

    February 18, 2011 at 9:00 am

    I enjoy your postings so much! Red is on! Love ya! Lo

  7. Terri

    February 18, 2011 at 9:36 am

    I especially liked your answers to question #2. I have a long jaw and frequent bags under my eyes. They’re there for all to see…why do I need to draw further attention to it.
    Terri recently posted..Checkers

  8. Veshoevius

    February 18, 2011 at 9:44 am

    “Self-improvement, body image perception, these are not phases. We live with our bodies until we expire.”
    Very true – so make the best of it while it lasts! Fascinating and wonderful answers.

  9. Veshoevius

    February 18, 2011 at 9:45 am

    ..and thanks for suggesting the topic – it was a very interesting one!
    Veshoevius recently posted..Friend Friday – Body Image

  10. Gracey

    February 18, 2011 at 11:53 am

    Wonderful post, I enjoyed reading it very much.
    Gracey recently posted..Friend Friday – Body Image

  11. Jodi

    February 19, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    BABES, great answers for sure.. and I know what you mean, I said I dont like my wide hips now everyone will look to see how wide they are ..hah hah… hey, I also love your new and creative blog design! very cool!! you are talented girl!! xoxo J

    • Fabienne Jach

      February 23, 2011 at 6:53 am

      That’s ok, now everyone knows I need braces. Curvy hips are girlie, tho. I’m not sure what the redeeming qualities of my teeth are. Lol!

  12. Emma at Daily Clothes Fix

    February 19, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    Great to read more about your view of yourself. And I know what you mean about blogging being a right to pose. I used to hate having my photo taken but now I am much more comfortable with it.
    Emma at Daily Clothes Fix recently posted..30 for 30- Wants and needs

    • Fabienne Jach

      February 23, 2011 at 6:50 am

      I just need thumpin’ voguing music to immediately play when I start shooting! That would be the ultimate:)

  13. Mackenzie

    February 19, 2011 at 8:32 pm

    case closed. you are pretty badass. your boots and your awesome answers solidify this :)

  14. Fashnlvr

    February 21, 2011 at 11:38 am

    Love your dress – you know me and red :D Those boots are pretty awesome too.
    I know what you mean by “expressions the camera catches and people see when the camera isn’t looking” I have plenty of those. My face is not naturally photogenic – I have to work at it.
    Great post, great suggestions!
    Fashnlvr recently posted..Three Hour Skirt From Leftover Fabric