FBFF Q&A: Just breathe… Blogging vs. life

11 Mar
Wearing my 30 for 30 remix outfit, wearing burgundy dress in garden

30 for 30 remix, day 23

I blog therefore I am… busy, tired and sometimes a little overwhelmed. When does the wheel stop spinning? Yoga might help but that would be yet another thing I would have to cram into an already busy schedule. So, how is this done? How much sleep do I really need, anyway?

This topic could not have come at a better time. I had been coasting nicely along until snowboarding season. All of a sudden, my schedule looks like this:

  • Monday night – Run 30 min., stretch 30 min., get home later. Blog.
  • Tuesday night – Catch up and blog. The weekly grocery shopping trip is often squeezed in here.
  • Wednesday night – Run 1 hr., stretch 45 min., get home pretty late. Blog.
  • Thursday night – Pack for snowboarding. Blog.
  • Friday night – Make the 4 hour pilgrimage to the slopes. Arrive late.
  • Saturday – Wake up early, spend all day at the slopes.
  • Sunday – Wake up early, spend all day at the slopes, make the 4 hour drive back home. Unpack.


To add to the precarious navigation of said schedule, my hubby and I commute together to and from work. Up until recently, we lived in urban areas where the need for a car was next to none and our schedules were totally independent of each other. Now, if one of us has an early meeting it means that both of us have an early meeting. We only have one car to share, there are regular negotiations about who gets the car when, who gets picked up from the train station at what time. All in all, everything we choose to do affects the other.

I’ve been progressively feeling like I’m falling behind; I have to ask myself why do I feel this way? My schedule has changed on purpose, acknowledging this is key. Am I going to let it stress me out or am I going to modify my game plan? After all, snowboarding is not a chore, it’s my passion. I dream about it all summer, I can’t wait for the snow to fall every year. You know what else is not a chore? Blogging. It’s evidently also a passion. What’s a girl to do? Plan better. Be more efficient. And just breathe…

This week we’re discussing the delicate balancing act of blogging versus life.

FBFF: When it comes to prioritizing your life, in what place does blogging fall?

FJ: After my health, fitness, adequate sleep and marriage and before socializing, reading books and resting. I know how that sounds, I put blogging before rest. I’ve been known to stay up right until bedtime which has led to thinking about blogging in bed when I ought to be mentally preparing myself for slumber. While it is not stressful, it’s also less than ideal. The mind should be shutting down, I’m aware that this habit needs to change. It’s cool to be this excited about something but it’s not sustainable to operate at this pace.

FBFF: We all wish we had more free time to dedicate to blogging and all it entails. What are your tricks for taking advantage of the time you do have to be as productive as possible?

FJ: I jot notes down every time I think of something I want to remember. I’ll also send myself emails, too, if I don’t have my notebook around. I click on links from my twitter feed and quickly check out a post at work while I’m on hold or waiting for a file to upload or print. I can read very quickly, it’s probably one of my most underrated abilities.

FBFF: Have you discovered any short-cuts that makes blogging easier or more time efficient?

FJ: Not getting sidetracked is key. I joke around that my brain is run by a tribe of rogue ants, all trying to make stuff happen at once. I literally have to list my top three goals on a piece of paper, number them and keep referring to them every time my mind, eyes or body dart elsewhere. I kid you not. I use a black Sharpie marker and make my list on the back of an envelope. It has to be obnoxiously noticeable to work. I know how my brain functions.

The other thing is that I’m always thinking, constantly mapping out how and what I want to do so that by the time I have a free moment I have already figured it out as efficiently as possible. My actions are bite-size! I’m always improving one little thing at a time. I let go of trying to be perfect out the gate a long time ago. It’s paralyzing. Instead, I’m constantly assessing how I can improve one little thing or another. No one really notices the changes but the experience is perpetually improving one little evolutionary step at a time.

FBFF: Do you have an editorial calendar or something similar that helps you plan ahead?

FJ: Lol! No and boy is that ever going to change soon! I’ve been kicking the idea around for a while. Before I even started hearing about editorial calendars I had already put in certain things in my gmail calendar with reminders. I just need to flush out the system realistically, I wanted to sit with it a little while before implementing it. I’ve been thinking of ways to create a sustainable schedule. I don’t want to blog every single day, it feels unhealthy to be in front of the computer like this all the time. I need to create a schedule that allows for pre-posting so that I can take a few days off a week.

FBFF:  If time wasn’t an issue what you would be doing on your blog/for your blog that you aren’t doing now?

FJ: About a gazillion things! I would have already practiced making a vlog, or two! I’d have read the manual to my new camera so that I could take better pictures, I’d have more posts written for the future. I’d have set up a facebook page. I’d read more blogs, spend more time getting to know fellow bloggers better. That’s just for starters.

As you can see, I’ve been thinking about this long and hard. What have I learned? Ultimately, the choice to do this is mine, I own the schedule, the content and the stress. As long as I remind myself that I’ve chosen freely to do this because I enjoy it I cannot give it so much power over me that it creates a heightened level of anxiety. I love doing this! If I don’t have the capacity for it some night, it’s ok. I take a break. To be frank, I’m a perfectionist so this is something I have really focus on, I have to give myself permission to rest. The internet is not going to die if I skip a day or two. Really! (That’s going to be my new mantra.)

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!


Deets: Burgundy sweater dress/unknown, leggings/Lulu’s, vegan grey faux cowboy boots/ModCloth, infinity scarf/hand knitted by me, cap/unknown, red leather belt/Wilson’s Leather, green abalone bracelet/gifted, silver three kitties ring/gifted*

* The background on this ring is that my youngest sister bought my other sister and me the same ring. The three kitties represent the three of us so I think of both of them every time I wear it.


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  1. Ylenia

    March 11, 2011 at 6:46 am

    I love your dress, especially its colour!!!
    Althoug, this is a missing colour in my wardrobe…need to give it a thought!!!!

    ciao and enjoy the weekend!
    Ylenia recently posted..Ones enough

  2. Jodi

    March 11, 2011 at 8:17 am

    Love your answers and I like how you posted your schedule.. you are someone who is up to stuff in life.. you know what they say, want something done get a busy person to do it.. your blog is awesome even if you do feel like you are falling behind. .I think thats the thing for us to remember, this is a hobby! I am someone who puts too much expectation on myself and certainly know this is where my stress comes from.. I can never live up to my own expectations, even with my blog (it could always be better, prettier, more followers, etc… ) endless cycle!!

    I love the outfit you are wearing from Day 23 too.. very pretty.. love the colors together.. have a super weekend girlfriend!! oox
    Jodi recently posted..Friend Friday- Finding Balance

  3. Christel

    March 11, 2011 at 10:10 am

    Yes, passions need time ! It’s better to have passions than to love nothing !

  4. Gracey at Fashion For Giants

    March 11, 2011 at 1:00 pm

    Gorgeous outfit and, as always, thoughtful and interesting responses to the FBFF questions.

    Gracey at Fashion For Giants recently posted..FBFF for March 11- Finding the Balance

  5. Kristin

    March 11, 2011 at 1:07 pm

    Love the color palette in your outfit — the orange and burgundy contrasted with the blue/gray is so pretty.

    I so enjoy reading about all the different ways other bloggers handle daily life. Great post and thoughtful responses!
    Kristin recently posted..Friend Friday- Finding the Balance

  6. Monica

    March 11, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    Love the outfit-again! and love your words! I can relate also with how my life is most of the year. ha!

  7. Casee Marie

    March 11, 2011 at 11:17 pm

    Love this outfit! The colors. And I love that each piece makes its own little statement. So much character. And I loved reading through your answers – you have such a healthy approach to blogging (and you do it so well!). I definitely hope to achieve that sometime in the near future. (:

  8. Ofelia

    March 12, 2011 at 8:24 am

    Looking fantastic, like always!!!!!
    Busy, Busy BEE!

  9. Kristin

    March 12, 2011 at 11:18 am

    I put blogging before rest too…And sadly, I don’t see that changing. HAHA

  10. Arash Mazinani

    March 13, 2011 at 11:17 am

    Great to read your answers. It was some what ironic that I passed up on this weeks FBFF because of time issues and it was all about time management. I’m always intrigued to see how people manage to balance blogging with normal day to day things. I used to blog 4 times a week but cut it down to 2 recently for a couple of reasons. One was to focus more on my image consulting course that I have been doing and also to free up more time to comment on all the wonderful blogs I’ve found.

    It takes probably a similar amount of time to comment than it does to write a post. I also find I worry less about coming up with topics to post about now I’m only posting twice a week.
    Arash Mazinani recently posted..Who Else Wants The Definitive Guide on Spring Summer 2011 Menswear Trends


    March 14, 2011 at 4:02 am

    I am glad that you let us in your life a little bit more through you answers. Just relaxl, and as you say BREATH…
    SACRAMENTO recently posted..Mexican Dress – FABRIC and Louis Vuitton

  12. Señora Allnut

    March 14, 2011 at 10:36 am

    well, you’re a so busy girl, and I’m astonished by your level of activity!, and your blogging frequency.
    I think all we became bloggers for get some fun sharing and enjoying fashion!, so that’s the thing I always try to remember when I’m becoming stressful!
    And love your reddish dress with the grey boots (love that boots!!!)