The necessity of reinvention

05 Feb

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daily outfit wearing red, grey, black vintage sweater dress, fishnets and over-the-knee boots

daily outfit wearing red, grey, black vintage sweater dress, fishnets and over-the-knee boots

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Mid-life crisis. There, I said it. I wouldn’t think twice about going to a dealership and driving off in a red hot Porsche right now. (Make it a 911 Turbo S, please.) But this isn’t a mid-life crisis and all I’ve done is get a new tattoo and color my hair differently in the past few months. It’s part of my evolution; the constant reinvention. What was wrong with the previous version of me? Absolutely nothing. But like anything, regardless of my conscious intervention, everything will change. I’d rather put up my sail and see where the wind takes me with some level of awareness and determination than to scramble unprepared.

I recently wrote about aging and what I plan to do about it. Here’s another tip for you: keep evolving. Stay fresh. Do something new. You don’t have to be as dramatic as me and get a tattoo, it wasn’t nearly the big deal I played it up to be since I happen to have six others. But you, take a different way home and see something new. Say hi to someone you don’t usually talk to. This is how life happens, how we make new friends and broaden our perspective. It makes life fun and keeps us interesting.

I can look back on any point in time in my life with incredible detail based on the following information: What music I was listening to, what my hair looked like and what I was wearing. You may not think you’re saying much with the way you dress but you are making a statement every single day. So have fun with it. Or be serious. Or be flirty. Spruce yourself up, or just take it down a notch. The point is that we need to be dressed every day. Most of us, at least. Since it has to be done and is not all that negotiable, half the work has been done for you. And I know you. You already own clothes. So put them together differently one day. Mix and match. Surprise yourself. Evolve.

It’s a tiny step, and perhaps you’re ready for something much larger but I expect this: One small change leads to another. One rewarding adventure, (yes! Even in the form of a pair of colored tights instead of the usual black) just changed your course. We have to evolve. I know it’s comfortable right here where you’re standing but everything around you will change and it’s much easier to move with it than to resist.

A friend of mine coaches women to live their abundant life to their fullest. “…step into being unapologetically radiant, switched on, confident…” she says. This woman is after my own heart. How can you not let yourself be seduced by such beautiful words? I want to be radiant! It takes work, just so you know. I often wake up ready to pull a “That Girl” moment but the minutiae of being alive and having to function as a responsible woman with a full-time career usually saps the last drop from me. Yet, I’m still here, writing. Albeit, I post less often these days but that’s fine. I’m still doing it and it feels great. And I’m proud of what I’m doing. In fact, you might say I feel a little radiant.

You may not think there’s a correlation between taking sartorial chances and writing this today, right now, but there are. Fifteen months ago I had no clue I would have a blog, that I would take myself on this rewarding journey. It all started with a harmless Facebook status update from woman I had just met participating in Kendi’s 30 for 30 remix challenge. The rest is history. I’ll rewind a little.

I took a chance. I decided that I had nothing to lose by joining my new friend in this challenge. In fact, I had nothing to lose by making a new friend. And I was right. Enthusiasm, almost giddiness, took over my spare time. I took pictures every day, I found blogs that inspired me in every possible way. I wrote. I gave myself permission to be more creative with my outfits because I was participating in something; there are times when it’s easier to have an excuse. I had a reason and a purpose with my invisible army of women doing this around the country to back me up. I felt braver. I was having fun again.

It would be fair to say that in my evolution I came full circle. Over the years I had started to lose the light-heartedness and whimsy that I had always associated with fashion. Not only did it return, but this was the next version of it. In no time at all, something even more interesting happened. The confidence I had in taking chances with my outfits carried over to other aspects of my life. Believe it or not, this is exactly how it happens.

This is my journey, it’s how I am evolving. One thing leading to another. Tell me, what little change have you planned for yourself today? Because taking one small step is how it all starts.

{ deets: }

Vintage red, black and grey sweater dress/eBay, fishnets/unknown, black belt/Dress Barn, black snakeskin patterned boots/Kelsi Dagger, feather necklace/JewelMint, vintage Gucci watch/gifted.

{ last note: }

You might have noticed my Google Friend Connect widget has been taken down. I found out that Google is discontinuing this product soon, I figured I might as well get used to no longer relying on it. There are still a variety of ways to subscribe to updates for this blog. In the meantime, I’d be delighted if you left me your url in the comment box, I’ll do my best to visit.

xo, f


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  1. Krystle {Fierce|Fabulous|Fit}

    February 6, 2012 at 10:20 am

    WOW, I really like this post!! I like what you say about getting dressed every day. It’s SO TRUE!! Dealing with chronic illness, I’ve learned that making sure I’m dressed and that I’ve spruced myself up more makes me feel less depressed and truly physically better!! It’s amazing!! Great post, lady!! <3
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  2. Franca

    February 6, 2012 at 11:49 am

    So agree with you! It is my ambition to never stop learning and developing. I’m taking a massive step of excitemenr by moving abroad by myself in 3 weeks (eek!). I’ve done it before but it’s more of a challenge after years of couply homeliness!

    Gorgeous photos by the way!
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  3. Terri (@RagsMachine)

    February 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Hm, having read this…I shall look for a small change to make tomorrow. It is interesting to read this and to ponder what might come after style blogging…I have interests in travel and creative writing and politics and I have only touched on these things lightly in my blog.
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  4. ac

    February 7, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    I would say “radiant” describes you perfectly.

  5. Jodi

    February 13, 2012 at 5:34 pm

    I love your new look.. great hair color, awesome outfit!! you rock sista!! xox j
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  6. Fashnlvr

    February 15, 2012 at 5:00 pm

    I am so with you on the mid-life thing. I bought a new car, started my blog, met other bloggers in Las Vegas and got a new job. There have been challenges along the way but you just have to meet them head on.
    Much love to you. Know that you are NOT alone at all!
    Miss you!
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  7. Brenda W. Scott

    February 20, 2012 at 3:28 am

    True! There’s no harm in trying! I’m hands down to you because you’re not afraid on trying and reinventing something. Kudos!
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  8. Oh to Be a Muse

    February 20, 2012 at 8:50 am

    very intriguing post. it does mean a lot to think about these things and to even make small changes here and there. i gave myself a 26 by 26 list and i plan to do a 27 by 27 list as well; this is how i’ll keep learning!
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    March 25, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    It’s funny, I actually feel like I’m going through a quarter-life crisis right now. But maybe what I need is a little evolution, a little reinvention. I’m moving around my furniture today, which might be the perfect start.
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