Nightshades and a dog on the freeway

02 Apr

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Not quite a New Year’s resolution, but certainly what’s been brewing behind closed doors, A.K.A., not on the blog. It’s a bit wordy, but I run that way at times and I haven’t written in months. Since there’s a sequence to all that I want to say, let’s rewind a bit and go back to the start.


Part 1: Nightshades

Without getting into the minutiae of how it came to be, just take my word for it, as of a few months ago I found out that I am sensitive to nightshades. I feel like a brighter, less fatigued version of myself without nightshades in my diet. I have celiac and can’t eat soy, or flax seeds, for that matter. Flax seeds are random, but hey, cramps, waves of nausea, nobody’s got time for that.


Part 2: The Dog On The Freeway

My dog, to be exact. She got out. An oversight leading to near catastrophe. She had stopped traffic on the freeway, never mind all the busy streets she first had to cross to get on the freeway. There she was, completely freaked out as kind strangers were trying to catch her. One amazing woman managed and my dog was returned to me safely.

Sometimes in life, one might be contemplating a change. Not a tiny little change. Something akin to a fundamental lifestyle overhaul. The kind of change that is more easily prompted by need or near catastrophe. Like the need to prepare my own food. Practically all of it. No more convenient snacks. No more high ticket items on the fly. I’d been wanting to cook more for myself and eat less processed foods but kept saving it for later. You know, when it would be more convenient. I’d even put myself on a budget.

I’d been wanting to move to my own place for a while, too. Six months ago, a friend opened up his home to me when one of the rooms he was renting became available. Now the time had come to take my things out of storage and move to a home I could call my own. I started putting a little money aside to save up for the big day. Then the dog on the freeway. The big day was now. I needed to take control of my finances asap if I wanted to provide my dog with the security I had committed to when I adopted her.


Part 3: My relationship with money

I made it. I spent it. I made more. I spent more. In time, I started feeling frustrated with all this spending. Not because I wasn’t saving any but because I started feeling a little sick with the idea of entitlement, acquiring to upgrade and not always out of need. Satisfying whims and all that. Getting stuff is fun until one day it isn’t. Something had been changing in me and I start to experience more mindfulness around all this stuff I was being sold. I was still buying it, then one day, nightshades and the dog on the freeway.

Part 4: What I learned

Holy cow I can save money fast when I need to! That’s right, people. I put myself on a budget and was able to find and rent my dream cottage in no time at all. I’m also making most of my food, which means that I’m healthier, I’m spending a lot less, and use up even less packaging. These are all such fantastic wins out of what could easily have been interpreted as misfortune.

I’ll keep you posted on how this goes. I have a really good feeling about the future. Many of these changes have been brewing underneath the surface, I’ve been ready for this for a long time. We know how much I love style and fashion, let’s see how this newfound effort to manage my finances in line with my value system plays out.

xo, f

P.S.: I just noticed my craftiness lives on. I sewed the lace on the skirt, made the belt I’m wearing with the avocado green dress, and spray painted the boots with glitter. What’s next?


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  1. Jodi @day2daywear

    April 5, 2015 at 8:35 am

    Hey girl, I love it when you post and I love your short hair!! You look great and glad you have been tweaking your diet and finding foods that agree with you more– food is medicine- so important that we find the food that works for us. Happy Easter!

  2. Jill Brodersen

    April 8, 2015 at 8:33 am

    You look stunning. Also, thanks for sharing your struggles. We are all just a work in progress.

  3. Rápido

    June 17, 2017 at 3:31 pm

    Ficou realmente muito linda e elegante
    Rápido recently posted..Como Controlar a Ejaculaçao Precoce, e Demorar Para Gozar!

  4. nazeer

    July 15, 2018 at 10:28 pm

    you are looking beautiful especially your short hair

  5. Rodolfo

    December 17, 2018 at 11:08 am

    Lindo parabens

  6. William Oliveira

    January 23, 2019 at 4:01 am

    Lindíssima, adorei o look. Beijos

  7. Dicas

    March 12, 2019 at 9:24 am

    Parabéns pelo artigo…..muito bom de ver….vou compartilhar com meus amigos

  8. ash green

    April 1, 2019 at 10:44 pm

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  9. Jhon

    September 10, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    You write very well, very nice. Do not give up on your dreams

    • Jhon

      September 10, 2019 at 5:06 pm

      Muito bom