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‘Tis the season to be green

08 Dec

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Daily outfit wearing burgundy boyfriend sweater, navy pencil skirt, black booties

Things that are green: Christmas trees. Also, cash money. I’m a consumer, a machine that uses stuff up and then buys more. While my heart may lie somewhere more utopian I cannot lie about my habits. I consumed when I had very little money. Hello, consignment shops and second-hand stores. I consumed even more when I had more money to burn. Blouses from Paris whose cost I could only justify by wearing year-round for four years in a row. And then there’s that place in the middle where I landed comfortably with time, (still consuming.)

As an idealistic teen entering her twenties, I had a set of core beliefs that I firmly put into action. I recycled years before my city had a recycling program, I adhered firmly to a plant-based diet, I passed on my used goods and gave them a second life elsewhere. I shopped locally with a strong emphasis on shopping. Herein lies the weakest link. As much as I wanted to love the organic cotton t-shirt dress and socks whose story pulled on my heart strings, I admit the styles left me yearning for more.

Through time, I’ve had to re-examine some of those core beliefs out of necessity. While my heart liked being vegan, my body did not. Having celiac along with being soy and dairy intolerant left me with difficult decisions to make, I made them mindfully. I’m proud of the way I have managed most of my life choices but I’ve always felt I could do more. How does a woman manage her idealistic fantasies after years of brutal reality, challenges, and sometimes, a primal desire for things to just be easy?

When I started blogging a year ago I quickly realized that I am on public record for my compulsive consumption. I’ve gone cold turkey a few times by participating in Kendi’s 30 for 30 remix challenge. It proved to be easier than I thought but my interest in bringing new things home to adorn myself never waned. I did, however, start to think longer and harder about the choices I was making. To be clear, I have no interest in stopping. I like clothes and accessories. I like new things. What I want is to make decisions around what I’m already doing that feel stronger. I want to live harmoniously with my youthful ideals.

I’m going on record here to say that I will be making more of an effort to pay attention to those purchases, to be more mindful of who and what I’m supporting. My goal is to participate in a cycle that feels good rather than one-sided. I’m not here to preach, I’m more interested in sharing what I discover on this journey. I’m more interested in getting your suggestions and recommendations. Do not expect an overnight revolution, I make my changes at a comfortable pace because I like them to stick. I give a lot of credit to the bloggers out there who have inspired me by shopping second-hand, altering vintage pieces to fit and creating their own fashion such as Bella, Michelle and Anika.

If you follow The House in the Clouds on facebook, you’ve probably noticed that I’m plugging local and eco-chic options during this holiday shopping seasons. If you haven’t looked recently, check it out.

Feeling good on the inside makes you beautiful on the outside; this I believe with all my heart.

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Daily outfit wearing navy blue and cream baby doll dress, black cloche hat, over-the-knee snake pattern boots

Daily outfit wearing blue bows dress, black Versace for H&M bolero, black Victor Osborne handcrafted hat

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1: Burgundy boyfriend cardigan/Urban Outfitters, vintage pins/gifted, infinity scarf/hand-knitted by me, black skinny belt/Nordstrom’s, navy pencil skirt/Show & Tell, black tights/unknown, black leather ankle boots/Munro.

2: Blue and cream babydoll dress/ModCloth, black boyfriend blazer/Urban Outfitters, nude floral fishnets/Nordstrom’s, black snake pattern over-the-knee boots/Kelsi Dagger, cloche hat/Goorin Bros. Heritage Collection.

3: Blue bows dress/ModCloth, black multi-colored bolero/Versace for H&M, swirl cap/Victor Osborne.

 
 

It’s Easter all week

28 Apr

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Daily outfit and style tips, wearing pink jacket, bows and flower dress
Has anyone seen my basket?

I’ve been dying to wear this dress forever but I had to wait for Easter first. It’s really just my silly rule, but I can’t make myself wear it before then, it’s got Easter written all over it.

Just look at the explosion of pinks and blues, the little flowers and bows, I practically feel gift-wrapped. It qualifies as what my friend would refer to as “cutesy pie”. It is.

Daily outfit and style tip, wearing bows dress and pink jacket,
Hey, what’s over the fence?

This morning’s photo session was captured with a healthy mix of haste and humor. I begged the hubby to quickly take the pictures before getting in the car. Our haste made for bad photo after bad photo, you just can’t rush a good thing. Silliness ensued. He specifically directed these poses and they were too much fun not to share.

Daily outfit and style tips, wearing pink jacket, bows and flower dress,
Detail of flower pattern
Daily outfit and style tips, big red heart ring
I <3 big rings!

He said I looked like a little kid. The big plastic heart ring probably didn’t help. I just needed oversized bunny ears to complete the look.

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This dress is has got a lot going on: Flowers, pinks, blues bows and more bows. Between the details and the structure of this dress it would be easy for it to feel too formal for work. To keep it light and fresh, I went with floral lace and fishnet tights in a pale beige, flat casual shoes and a fun, bright pink corduroy jacket. The effect was perfect for a sunny spring day.

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Bows dress/ModCloth, floral lace and fishnet tights/DKNY, pink corduroy jacket/thrifted, flat casual shoes/Naturalizer, red heart ring/H&M. Note: I would not recommend this particular style from DKNY. They gave me what I can only describe as a “sausage legs” effect. The elasticity of the weave was not consistent and pinched into my skin, even throughout the less fleshy parts. I have other similar tights from Nordstrom’s that fit much better.

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Filip Jach

 
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FBFF Q&A: What does a feminist wear?

25 Mar
Daily outfit black dress with blue bows and blue tights.
Bows and boots, perfect for a feminist
Daily outfit wearing orange ombre scarf
Wearing my Style Nation swag from Cheeky Boutique

Feminism and fashion have been a hot topic lately, one I touched on briefly a few days ago. What does being a feminist have to do with anything? If the way I dress gets attention, more specifically male attention, does it revoke my license for gender equality? Am I to be taken less seriously because I’m deemed feminine or sexy? Am I taken to be taken more seriously for hiding my body? This week’s questions revolve around this exact topic.

FBFF: Do you think there is an incompatibility between feminism and a love for fashion?

FJ: No. It’s a matter of perception. I would turn the question around and ask, what would make you believe that there is? Does my love for a male dominated sport make me less feminine? These are all stereotypes and perceptions. I believe that the point of feminism is not just gender equality but freedom from gender-based behavior and obligations. In fact, I would add to this and say there is no obligation to equate fashion to stereotypical femininity. What if my love for fashion was simple, masculine lines? Would it suddenly be deemed appropriate feminist garb? Of course not.

FBFF: There is more to each of us than a love for fashion, how do you incorporate every aspect of yourself into your blog?

FJ: I don’t, nor do I feel the need to. I bring up different topics that I’m passionate about and speak in my own voice but my blog is mostly about my fashion so it will not feature every aspect of my personality or interests. I might loosely cover unrelated topics which will shed light on my personality, of course, but my assumption is that most readers didn’t come here to read about how things are going at work or my family dynamics, for that matter.

FBFF: With the fashion industry still being a male-dominated profession, how do you think it would differ if women played a larger role?

FJ: I don’t know. I’d like to think that there would be more emphasis on comfort but what we purchase and how we choose to dress ourselves is still a personal decision at the end of the day. Therefore, who’s to say that anything would change? Frankly, I don’t know enough about the fashion industry to understand what goes into it. I can say that perhaps the same changes we’ve seen as a society by having women in the workplace and in power would be reflected within the fashion industry. Would there be more compassion in the industry? Would we have realistic models, realistic size? I would like to think so.

FBFF: How is your self-image and the way you carry yourself informed by your beliefs?

FJ: I believe I’m free to carry myself any which way I choose. It is my choice to be androgynous or glamorous, sexy or covered up, feminine or not. I’m not naïve and understand that each choice I make carries with it an impression, people will see me and judge me. It doesn’t matter what I wear, we’re human animals looking to identify and understand. We do this by categorizing, stereotyping and judging. Hopefully we take it further by looking at the entire picture in and not just the first aesthetic impression.

It would be false to say we don’t judge a book by its cover, we do. Then we continue to create this judgement or impression by reading the title. Perhaps the author’s name lends an additional amount of information, the description on the back cover, the content of the story. The point is that it is up to us to remain open and continue taking information in with the understanding that our first impression is still only a portion of the whole. It’s up to me to communicate other aspects of my personality as I go through life, it is up to others to remain open from the time of their first judgement.

FBFF: Do you think clothing/makeup/hair helps communicate the truth about yourself or are those things superfluous add-ons?

FJ: Both. They are decorations but we live in a society where such decorations are the norm. If I were the only person in the entire state to fancy makeup, perhaps I’d only wear it once in a while, or perhaps never but I’m not. I may not consciously apply makeup every morning thinking to myself I must compete with other women, I must blend in, but these are subliminal and primal actions. I’m comfortable in my own skin. I have no problem leaving the house without makeup but it is a choice not a pressure I feel to do so. Everything I do, every way that I decorate myself is appropriate for the context of living in this society but ultimately I do it so that when I look in the mirror I like what I see.

I feel it does reflect the truth about myself. It says I take pride in how I present myself. I could expound further by using examples of inner dialogue versus public discourse, it’s all a choice. This is how I want to be seen. I exercise the freedom to choose how I want to be perceived every day. Exercising our freedom of choice is what defines our character and separates us from other animals.

I wear what I want.

 

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

If feminism and fashion have piqued your interest, check out Feminist Fashion Bloggers for more information on getting involved.

 

Deets: Black dress with blue bows/ModCloth, butterknit pumpkin shawl/Cheeky Boutique, blue tights/We Love Colors, black boots/Nordstrom’s, bracelets/H&M.