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FBFF Q&A: Blogger authenticity

21 Jan
Some authentic love and bad helmet hair from last weekend’s trip

Our favorite run of the day

Will the real Fabienne please stand up? 

Readers value authenticity in a blog but defining what makes it authentic varies greatly. Who are we? How are we coming across? Who’s doing it well? Am I trying too hard? Does this blog make my butt look big? (Oh, I just couldn’t help myself!)

It’s Friend Friday and the topic this week is about what we deem authentic and how we express that quality in our blogs.

FBFF: Most readers and fellow fashion bloggers value authenticity in the blogs they read. How would you describe blog/blogger authenticity?
FJ: I would say there’s a level of humility that comes through somehow. I don’t mean self-deprecation, but rather a sense that the voice used to speak to me as a reader conveys friendliness and a desire to connect. This also something that consistency brings with time. I often check out a blog several times before deciding to follow. 

There’s a lot going on these days about authentic products, authentic experiences and behavior, it’s the latest in marketing jargon. Honestly, staying true to your character is as authentic as you can get. If someone is a super sharp dresser with the discretionary income one only dreams of it’s not any more authentic of them to try to play it down just appear “authentic”. Work what you’ve got, don’t apologize. If you’re flashy by nature, be flashy. If you’re a mom, be a mom.

FBFF: When it comes to your blog how do you infuse it with that true authentic feeling?
FB: Firstly, I will say that I definitely censor myself. What sounds funny when you’re with close friends does not always translate in the written word. Nor do I want to be remembered for the bad day I had or the like. 

That being said, everything you get is 100% me. My goofy sense of humor. My propensity for storytelling, my love of colors, nature, food, and let’s not forget snowboarding! I choose to represent myself accurately and also mindfully. I don’t mind having a good laugh at what I wore ten years from now but it would upset me greatly if a vignette of a bad day remained in the blogosphere to haunt me forever, especially out of context.

FBFF: Have you stopped following a blog in the last three months? What made you lose interest?
FJ: Yes. The blogger seemed to have a lot of negative energy. Maybe it was a bad or difficult time for her. By no means do I expect everyone to be a Pollyanna, that would be disingenuous, but the impression I got was that person’s outlook on life had a negative bent to it. Not only could I not do anything to help but it started bumming me out. I think it would have been different if she had reached out. Who doesn’t want to help a sister? 

FBFF: We can’t communicate effectively on our blogs, something we don’t live in real life… what are some ways you try to live an authentic life?
FJ: I don’t know if I can sum it up in just a few words! I’ll try. Honestly, I don’t find it too difficult to be genuine, I don’t let convention or assumptions bog me down. I’m probably a rebel in disguise! A rebel who can see both sides of the story. I try to live the life I believe in, I try not to pass judgment without in-depth knowledge, I try to stand up for myself when necessary and I’m not afraid of being super affectionate and letting those I care about know it. Lastly, I’m not afraid of being wrong, it happens to all of us once in a while. I think those are pretty good starting points. And I surround myself with quality people. Your peeps say a lot about who you are, I happen to think mine are the bomb!

FBFF: Give a shout-out… Which bloggers do you think are truly genuine and why?
FJ: Lol! How many of us are going to say “Katy”? Ok, there are quite a few so off the top of my head:

Katy (YOU!) from ModlyChic. Why? Your personality shines through even while you’re giving us advice and sharing your know-how with the community. At no point do you come across as authoritative yet you are so well respected. That says a lot about your authenticity.

Jodi from day2daywear. I just love her personality and enthusiasm. I enjoy all the little life tidbits she throws into her posts. You get the sense that even if she has a bad day she’s going to find something to laugh about. And you’re invited to laugh along.

Kendi from Kendi Everyday. I love the one post where she describes the sound of her voice. I swear it changed how I read her posts now.

Emma from Daily Clothes Fix. So much of her character comes across in the photos and her outfits. It feels so genuine. She’s got great ethics but has never appeared preachy. It inspires me.

Rose from Lovely Ladypants McGee. Her voice comes across genuinely. She’s creative, funny, eloquent. She, too, shares aspects of her life that just make me like her more!

Mackenzie from Whatever, Gatsby. I don’t know how she wouldn’t come across as authentic, seriously! If only I were that cool when I was twenty. Or that fearless!

Yvonne from Fashnlvr. I just started following her after signing up for Style Nation. I feel like I can basically say the same things about all of these ladies. I dig how they come across: intelligent, inquisitive, fun, personable, creative. They’re all different but share a lot of the same traits on their blogs.

I could keep going on and on: Collette from Statements in Fashion, Vahni from Grit and Glamour, Sal from Already Pretty…) The coolest thing is that I will keep discovering more bloggers that will inspire me, and so the cycle will continue. Yay for blogging!

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic, a very authentic blogger, for putting together these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!


FBFF Q&A: Avoiding the clothes hurricane.

13 Jan
This was my 1.11.11 outfit

Standing in front of my open closet doors the other day I hollered to no one in particular that I don’t know what to wear, I have too many cute clothes to choose from. (I know!) I was actually saying this to the hubby but it’s like that saying about if a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one to hear it, did it actually make any noise? If I’m squawking away in front of my closet but he only hears sweet melodic background noise, am I actually saying anything? (Don’t answer.)

This claim is actually an advanced version of the old “I have nothing to wear” proclamation. I had tons to wear, just no idea what. I was tired the night before and didn’t do what I normally do. What’s that, you ask? Continue reading and you shall have your answer.

It’s Friend Friday and the topic this week is about how we determine what we’re going to wear. What’s your magic process?

FBFF: How do you determine what you will wear that day?
FJ: Often I already have something in mind. Either it’s a style I’m in the mood for, or a color. More often than not, I know what color I’m in the mood for. Isn’t that funny? I do this the night before. Every once in a blue moon, by morning I may no longer want to wear that color but usually I do. The other wild card is that sometimes I may have an accessory or shoes in mind and will create an outfit around that one single thing.

FBFF: Do you plan outfits out in advance for a whole week, month, weekend?
FJ: No, planning that far ahead stresses me out. I’m too much of a perfectionist to want to do that to myself! Just the night before, or maybe something I’ll want to wear in the next day or two. 

FBFF: Do you have any specific way of tracking outfits and items already worn so you don’t repeat?
FJ: Gosh no! I’m a chronic repeater. If I love an outfit, I’ll wear it every week. Worse yet, I’ll wear it on the same day which makes it worse. I never worried about it before, I don’t think anyone at work had ever noticed but now that I’m documenting my outfits almost daily, I’ve become really aware of it. That’s the reason I don’t think I can document daily. I WANT to repeat those outfits I love. Things are going to start looking more and more familiar in no time. I’m going to do my best to shelter you from this!

I’ve decided to indulge my chronic repetition on days I don’t post and try to mix it up a little more when I’m showing pix. I want to give extra big props to Emma of Daily Clothes Fix who today just completed 365 days of no repeats. This is huge! As a chronic repeater, I’m in awe. 

FBFF: How do you discover new combinations of items in your closet? (Trial try-ons? Hanging items together?)
FJ: Definitely try-ons. I’ve made the mistake a few times of not actually trying all the pieces on because they looked good together on the hanger and it’s not a pretty scene when I get stumped in the morning. I don’t like to rush and I hate being late. Mess with the system and you’ve got a clothes hurricane in the bedroom!

In fact, one of my favorite things to do when I buy something new is to go through my closet and find all the cute possible ways to wear it. The hubby avoids the warzone and I play dress-up for an hour. That really is my idea of a good time.

Last year, some friends were visiting from San Diego. I don’t know what got into us but she and I left our men downstairs and went up to my closet. We literally did a fashion show with all my clothes for the guys. It was totally random and fun. 

FBFF: To streamline the process for 2011 what is the one new thing you can do to cut down your dressing time?
FJ: Actually getting dressed takes very little time since I have it worked out the night before. The thing I started doing, which I will continue to do is always have tights in perfect condition and have enough no-show undergarments in basic colors, including full dress slips. I can’t tell you how many times I slip on the only clean pair of black tights to discover that they were damaged and my other pairs are in the hamper. Next thing I know, I’ve blanked out on what to wear and I’m trapped in the middle of a clothes hurricane. My hubby is impressed with the kind of damage I can do in a limited amount of time. Heck, I’m impressed.

Last year, I bit the bullet and bought two Commando brand full dress slips, one in nude and one in black. All of a sudden, I could wear every dress in my closet! They were sooooo expensive, though. I have dresses that cost maybe twenty dollars and I’m wearing an eighty dollar slip underneath. It was so worth it. They don’t have any seams, they don’t puckers, the straps are adjustable and they’ll last forever. I don’t have a single dress that sits in my closet because it’s too shear or needs a shirt or tank top underneath or my underwear is too visible. That purchase relieved me of so much frustration.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for putting together these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

Deets: Burgundy dress/unknown, cherry sweater shrug/Moth, belt/Anthropologie, brown tights/Hue, brown man-made suede boots/Munro, necklace/gifted, cloche hat/Goorin Bros.


FBFF Q&A: Comparing ourselves

07 Jan
Une Very Stylish Fille and I, making friends with the camera.

My husband played his “Best Hubby” card today and took me to Diamond Peak. Though still on vacation, I was ho-humming my way around our cabin this morning. He decided to cheer me up by taking me snowboarding, which totally worked, of course. That kind of sacrifice deserved action on my part so I spent the better part of two hours practicing riding switch, (backwards), doing 180′s and taking as many small jumps as possible.

Did I mention how much I love my new board? Yes, it’s love. True love.

But wait, there’s more. I’ve resolved to getting bolder about asking people if I can take pictures of their street style, even on the slopes. There was a Japanese gal in front of our car wearing the most awesome jeggings, and trust me, I’m not one to match up “awesome” and “jeggings” often in a single sentence but these were reminiscent of a dark, starry night. Indigo blue with gold sparkles in the fabric, a simple pocket detail and a matching cap in a fat sparkly deep grey knit. I want a pair, or at least the cap.

A couple nights ago was Avalanche Lounge at the cabin. We got all dressed up and drank fancy cocktails, all prepared by my very own hubby, Fil. He plans the menu weeks in advance, buys the freshest ingredients and spends the afternoon preparing the garnishes. This is as fancy I got this week. It was pretty fancy!

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Moving along to Friend Friday. This is my opportunity to think about and answer some questions. The theme this week is about how and whether we compare our blogs to others. How do we measure up? Let’s see.

FBFF: have you ever looked at someone’s blog and thought yours would never measure up?
FJ: No, I have two thoughts on that. The first is that there’s nothing I can’t do, only what I don’t yet know how to do. I know, it sounds arrogant. Look, I learned how to snowboard well and it was not pretty at first. I can get twenty people to testify that I didn’t stand a chance when I started. And some hospital visits to back that statement. I stuck with it and it gave me a confidence that can never be erased.

The second is that I think in the same way that there is someone for everyone, there’s an audience for any blog. Having said that, I let the blogs that I respect inspire me. I’m not trying to be them, I want to be my very own version of that excellence.

FBFF: Do you, or did you, feel pressure to meet some kind of undefined standard for fashion bloggers?
FJ: At first I wasn’t sure what readers would be interested in but getting my feet wet with the 30 for 30 remix gave me thirty days to get a feel for it. I’m a perfectionist by nature but I’ve learned to be easier on myself. I see so much diversity in the world of blogging, I equate this with opportunity. The older I get, the less I worry about being awesome or cool. I’m me, you’re either on board or you’re not. I hope readers dig what I’m sharing, because that’s all I’m doing: Sharing. And I like it.  It’s really fun being an absolute beginner!*

FBFF: Many established fashion bloggers are also extraordinary DIYers, bakers and crafty people. Do you think you need to combine all these things to be successful at blogging.
FJ: No. I think all you need to express your passion in the most personally eloquent manner possible. Keep your standards high but be realistic. I’m always amazed at those women who can do everything. They raise the bar so high! It’s fantastic inspiration but I don’t feel the pressure to live someone else’s definition of great. There’s a lot in my life that doesn’t make it to my blog that keeps my life awesome so it’s ok if I’m not out there knitting a car cozy in the spare time I don’t have. (How awesome would that be, though? A car cozy = awesome!) I’ve learned that doing a little all the time is a much more effective way to be satisfied with how much I accomplish over the course of my life. That’s what is working for me at the moment. Just focusing on the journey, baby!

FBFF: The most successful blogs are the ones that have their own personal voice – how are you developing your voice or did you find yours?
FJ: Anyone who knows me would say that this would probably not be a challenge for me. I’m pretty outgoing and feel like my personality is the most ownable asset I have. I can copy anyone, I can focus on perfecting my grammar but if you don’t get a sense of my silliness, my sense of humor, my personal take on life, it’s not me. Defining how that comes across through a blog is the greater challenge, but you know, I’m always up for a good challenge. 

FBFF: Toot your own horn… What’s the one thing you do that is unique to you and your blog? What gives your blog an edge?
FJ: I wouldn’t call it an edge, but there’s only one of me. You get a taste of life through my eyes, it may not be for everyone but it’s not likely to get boring any time soon. I’m always up to something and I’ve always got a tale to tell.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for putting together these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

* I just had to go there, Bowie defined my teens. He might actually have been one of my very first style icons.

Deets: Black sheer dress/Georgiou, black cloche hat, Goorin bros., drop earrings/gifted, necklace/Claire’s Boutique, shearling scarf/unknown in Paris, black gloves/Nordstrom’s, Telene with pink hair/friend!


Happy New Year! FBFF Q’s: New Year…

01 Jan
Winter wonderland

Happy New Year! It’s Saturday but I’m really comfortable pretending that it’s Friday which is why I decided to postpone Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday. If you saw yesterday’s post, you would understand why I opted not to subject you to the world’s longest post. Sometimes, there’s good reason to be tardy.

Before going any further, I just want to acknowledge how amazing entering the world of blogging has been for me. It’s because of you. Really, you! I like to think of it as well-balanced symbiotic relationship. Knowing me, I’ll expound later. For now, I’ll answer this week’s questions.

New Year, new blog, new you… resolutions and goals for 2011

FBFF: What’s the one thing you vow to learn or do in 2011 to improve your blog?
FJ: I’m interested in making the switch to WordPress to allow for greater functionality and customization and learning more. One of the advantages of being a designer is that I know how to make stuff look great. The disadvantage of using blogging applications is that they are incredibly limited in order to be easier to use. I find myself frustrated by those limitations, however minor they might be at times. I still have a lot to learn. Hollering across the room for help from the hubby is not a sustainable long-term solution.

FBFF: What did you learn about blogging in 2010 that you plan to put into practice next year?

FJ: Being active in the community. I’m still defining how much time to spend doing research, working on posts, connecting with readers and the community at large. It’s a very fluid process, some days or weeks are more or less demanding than others. In order to post almost daily, I’ve made peace with the organic scheduling fluctuations that will occur.

FBFF: Do you have any high-level goals for your blog in the coming year? Monetization? More comments? More connections with other bloggers? A new template?

FJ: I’m looking forward to refining my blog and connecting with other bloggers. I want to put more energy into writing more in-depth pieces and keep the content diverse. I also really want to improve my writing and photography skills. 

I’m a storyteller which I have probably known intuitively all my life yet had never acknowledged until recently. I come from a long line of storytellers, just ask my dad a simple question! Maybe it’s just a Mediterranean thing, but I feel like I’ve been surrounded by storytellers all my life. It was bound to get passed down.

FBFF: If you could collaborate with one other blogger within your sphere of influence in 2011, who would you like to collaborate with, and what would you like to collaborate on?

FJ: Oooh, tough question! I can think of a couple bloggers that I’ve connected with who’ve risen to the top for me. I like how their personality comes through and the creativity they exhibit. Those two would be Jodi of day2daywear and Emma of Daily Clothes Fix. I could see myself collaborating with bloggers I don’t know, like Sal of Already Pretty. She has so much great advice to offer and is such a great writer. 

As far as what we would collaborate on? I don’t have any specific ideas. Either a theme or writing a post together, who knows. 

FBFF: What do you plan to do to support other bloggers next year?
FJ: I want to keep checking out new blogs and providing support whenever I can. Either by joining groups or commenting whenever it feels appropriate.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic, along with Vahni of Grit and Glamourfor putting together these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic.


Friend Friday: Holidays

24 Dec
Joyeux Noël!

FBFF Q&A: This week’s theme revolves around the holidays. Fun stuff!

FBFF: Your favorite holiday memory:
When I was about 5, we were still living in Beirut, Lebanon. I remember that our apartment was really done up, every room had been decorated. My grandmother mémé got me a doll that was almost as big as me. She could stand and spoke when you pulled the string. I eventually cut off her hair and painted her eyelids green, but that was all part of the fun. My parents had German opera going on the reel-to-reel and I thought it was Santa singing. That pretty much sums up the magic of Christmas for me.
FBFF: Were you ever a victim of those family Christmas party photo shoots? What do you think about them now? Care to share an old photo?
No, my dad being a designer and photographer took all our photos, which were usually candid. They were great, though one year a Polaroid captured everything I associate with the late seventies; Kitch, extra ruffles, the tree and three doe-eyed kids, (my sisters and I.)

These photos are part of the series my dad used as a promotional Christmas card for his studio. I didn’t the one he actually sent in my photo album. I can still recall him writing on my face and my staying very still while he did it. I was a really happy kid, even though I looked like a boy for the first five years because they kept my hair really, really short.

FBFF: Best Christmas gift you ever gave:
I saved up and bought my dad a functional hand-made Italian train set in my early twenties. I had to special order it. It was so expensive, I can’t believe I did it! For years I never got him anything interesting so this was The Big One. I got him this gift because I used to have a really, really cool train set when I was a kid and I was fascinated by it. He and I would play with it for hours. I have very happy memories of that moment. I played with trains and cars, played dress-up with dolls and drew. Minus the trains, that sounds like me still.

FBFF: Craziest/funniest holiday family tradition:
It’s not so much a tradition as much as it is something that just happens. When my sisters and I get together at my dad’s house, it gets nuts. We’re all so excited to see each other that we talk and make so much noise that it’s practically a party of three! We interrupt each other, we talk over each other, we laugh a ton. It’s a total scene.

Gluten free Linzer cookie!
FBFF: Favorite type of Christmas cookie:
 FJ: That’s a tough one. I’m a bit of a cookie monster but having to be gluten-free has changed my outlook a little. Overall, I would say that the linzer cookie is my absolute favorite. It’s got the right kind of texture, I love the hint of fruit preserve in the middle, totally love the two layers and powdered sugar! I’m going to try to make them this year. My mom used to make them for me as a kid all the time.

As always, I’d like to thank Katy of ModlyChic for putting together these questions. If you’d like to learn more about Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday, click here.

Photos of Fabienne courtesy of Mark-Henri David
Photo of cookie courtesy of Stephanie Stiavetti,

FBFF Q&A: Holiday Party Attire

17 Dec

Unfortunately, I’m unable to post a picture of the outfit I’m wearing today, but take my word for it, it looks totally fab! I added a few key accessories from yesterday’s noontime jaunt to Anthropologie for some last-minute Christmas shopping. Actually, I added ALL the accessories. I’ve been wondering if anyone has noticed the onslaught of decorative newness. I’m pretty sure the entire office is riding much too high on sugar from our lunchtime party to notice anything right now. That’s cool. I’ll wear it again next week and I’ll document it for you right here. The colors in effect at the moment are deep cherry, dark tomato red, plum and brown. Bam! Another explosion of color!

You know what day it is. It’s Friday. That’s Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday to you, if you’re friendly. Read on.

FBFF: Which holiday party are you looking forward to attending this year?
FJ: Every year, my best friends and I rent the same house in Lake Tahoe for a week to celebrate New Year’s Eve and ski and snowboard the rest of the time. That’s my favorite party because I’m literally only surrounded by people I love the most.

FBFF: What is your go-to holiday party outfit?
FJ: I don’t really have one. It depends on the party. If it’s a small party with close friends, it’s usually something ridiculous and/or outrageous. I scored a hot pink faux fur jacket at H&M on clearance a couple years ago for $17. It makes an appearance now and then. I like dressing up almost to the point of creating costumes.

FBFF: Do you go dressed in something that would be impractical to wear at any other time of the year?
FJ: Absolutely! Impractical and totally inappropriate. I suppose it we’re talking about a work holiday party, then it’s just a dressed-up version of what I wore to work that day. I might add sparkly festive jewelry, more black, more make-up; basically, your standard issue day-into-night look. For more intimate parties, it’s no holds barred!

FBFF: If you are going to a house-party what gift will you bring to the host/hostess?
FJ: It depends on the hostess. Often it’s a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of wine, something that can be enjoyed by everyone.

FBFF: If you could buy only one trendy piece to update your holiday party wardrobe, what would you get this year?
FJ: I’d like a faux fur vest. Do you hear that, Santa?

As always, I’d like to thank Katy of ModlyChic for putting together these questions.


Connecting with readers

12 Dec
It was really foggy today and felt somewhat ethereal

Hand-made bead and necklace, gifted, (lucky me!)

My first purchase in 30 days

The holidays are officially wreaking havoc on my life as of right now. I’m a planner with a mild, yet debilitating, case of Type A at the moment; I officially feel behind. I have a to-do list which loosely outlines all the ways that my scheduling abilities are failing:

  • Christmas card designed and mailed, no
  • Christmas tree purchased, no
  • Christmas decorations installed, no
  • Christmas presents made, no
  • Christmas baking planned, no
  • Baking ingredients purchased, no
  • Holiday parties attended, yes, one

I blame being under the weather for some of it. The rest I attribute to having high expectations of what I, SuperFabu, can achieve in less time that anyone else. If I figure out how it’s done, I’ll let you know. As of now, I just got off the phone with a friend who will help me get a tree. FTW!

Let’s turn back the clock a little to Friday, shall we? I’m digging these Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday questions, the topic is on reader connectedness.

FBFF: How important do you think reader connectedness is to the success of your blog?
FJ: It depends on what metrics one uses to define success. Personally, I’m currently defining is as a way to share, entertain, inspire and connect with others. If I can inspire a reader, or get a chuckle out of them, that makes me feel like it’s worth the effort. Based on my criteria, I would say reader connectedness is important.

FBFF: What do you do to draw readers in and create that writer-reader bond?
FJ: I try to keep the content fresh and personal enough to engage. If my content was totally dry, it would disregard the human nature of bonding. One way we bond with each other is through similarities. If I tell a story that someone can relate to and I tell it in a way that keeps the reader engaged or entertained, it’s more effective.

Some time this can also take form in replying to a comment or sending a personal response. I think being present and validating my readers is important.

FBFF: What is one way you could improve this connection?
FJ: Remain thoughtful in what I’m sharing in a public forum, and do my homework and research so that I don’t end up becoming so predictable that I’ve become dull. Follow up on comments that are posed as questions. Create a dialogue.

FBFF: Is there a blogger you think does a great job creating that writer-reader bond? Why? 
FJ: Absolutely! Quite a few, actually. The ones I’m thinking of make me feel like if we met we would share a laugh or two while trading tips and stories. Their tone is personal enough to get a sense of their character, which I find likable. There is a nice balance of personal and relevant content for me to feel a kinship while learning something valuable.

FBFF: What do you do to cultivate new readers? How do you get them to your site in the first place? 
FJ: I think this goes back to an old saying, which I’m certain to be paraphrasing: Be the friend you want to have. What I interpret this to mean is if I want to generate curiosity and get people to comment, then I need to be that person. When I’m inspired by someone’s outfit or post, share that with them. Why wouldn’t I want to be that person? I don’t have tactical marketing strategies only because this is my labor of love. I’m not interested in putting on a business hat at this point though by no means would I judge another for doing so. There are plenty of clever ways to get readership, I may at some point dedicate effort to doing so, I don’t know what the future holds. At this point, I’m pleased with my new blog baby. I’m enjoying the process of learning, I’ve only been blogging a short while.

I will add that being visible and participating on a more public level, such as the FBFF definitely helps. Ultimately for me, I was interested in other than numbers, I like being part of a community dialogue and meeting new people.

I will not discount using social networking like Twitter or Facebook, which I have been using regularly anyway. I also added my blogs to my email signature and anytime I mention one of my friends, I always send it to them, which they seem to enjoy.

I’d like to thank Katy of ModlyChic for putting together these questions. She’s got tips on how to wear over-sized sweaters featured today, (yes please!)

Deets: Teal tanktop/Free People, aqua cashmere cardigan/Bloomingdale’s, ochre elastic belt/Anthropologie, black ankle cigarette pants/BDG, Urban Outfitters, hand-made beaded necklace/gifted, black leather ankle boots/Munro.


30 for 30, day 25. Two for one.

02 Dec
Too Cozy To Be True dress and Don’t Mess boot, both from ModCloth

Look what I got! I ordered these from ModCloth before the shopping ban and I can’t wait to wear them! I must admit, the dress is short. As in head-turning short.  I’ll be wearing it as a tunic with leggings or something, like pants. I have really thick grey cable-knit tights which could also do the trick. The boots are fantastic, too. They’re flat so even though they won’t accommodate my insoles they will still be wearable. I’m so excited about this outfit that I might have to make my debut in it when the remix ends for me, in FIVE days!

I’m wearing black tights under these aqua tights for opacity
Photo opp on my way to get coffee

Time is of the essence this evening because I still need to pack before heading down to Big Sur after work tomorrow. I’m looking forward to getting away, it’s been an action-packed week. No posts during the weekend but I’ll do my best to take photos when we go out to dinner after hiking all day and hopefully post them on Monday.

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This next part is meant to be Friday’s post, hence the two-for-one action. These questions were posted for Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday and were inspired by someone who is closing her blog.

FBFF: How many hours a week do you spend blogging? Has that number changed since you started blogging?

FJ: I probably log about 7 – 9 hours or so a week. I’ve come to the realization that it’s about an hour nightly, give or take. It hasn’t changed but I just started and it may be too soon to tell.

FBFF: There is always more you can do, write, read, comment on… how do you limit your time spent on these tasks? 

FJ: It’s still a bit of a free-for-all at this point. As the nature of discovery keeps evolving for me, I find that what interests me most keeps rising to the top organically. I’d love to have more time but it’s not physically possible. I try to stay focused on the task at hand for that moment: work on my photos, type up & review my post, check my favorite blogs. I typically blog at the end of my day, my internal clock usually lets me know it’s time to get to bed. It’s working so far. I do check some blogs during the day, I’m a fantastic multi-tasker and have two monitors at my desk. It’s not uncommon for me to have 15 to 20 windows open while working.

FBFF: Have you experienced Blogger burnout yet? How have you dealt with that? 

FJ: Not yet. There have been evenings when I’ve been pretty tired. I remember that I’m choosing to do this. If I need a break, I’ll take it. There’s a chance I won’t blog daily once the remix is over. At least I say this now but I’m a creature of habit. I may go through withdrawals!

FBFF: This time of the year is always a lot busier than any other time. Will your blogging change as a result?  
FJ: Probably not. I keep busy all year. I may not be blogging on weekends through the winter since I go snowboarding then, but we’ll see. There may be more posts on the awesomeness of snowboarding!

FBFF: Could you forsee a moment in which you are not blogging anymore? How would you identify that it’s time to walk away? 

FJ: I don’t know what the future holds. It’s no different than anything in life for me. As long as I’m feeling it with my heart and I’m having fun with it I will keep doing it. Ask me again in a year. I’m no stranger to keeping a daily journal. While this is not nearly as personal or intimate, it’s a record of my life delivered in bite-size increments.

I’d like to thank Katy of ModlyChic for putting together these questions. I’d also like to encourage anyone who’s blogging to take a look at her post today, it’s loaded with tips on improving your blogs.

See you next week!

Deets: Hand-knitted black scarf/gifted, black turtleneck/Benetton, teal tank top/Free People, Nordstrom’s, recycled sweater skirt/Urban Outfitters, aqua and black tights/Hue, necklace/Alexis Bittar, crystal cocktail ring/Ariella, hand-carved ginkgo earrings/Braindrops, elastic top slip-on shoes/Munro


30 for 30, day 19. The Swap

26 Nov

Today I’m doing something a little different. Brett from silvergirl and I swapped posts today, via Fashion Beauty Friend Friday. Check out her pictures and see what she says:

When Fabienne and I talked about what to write for our blog swap, I asked her to write about her experience with the 30 in 30 challenge.  I wanted to know if had been easier or harder than anticipated and if she was enjoying it.  Mostly I was interested in why and how she decided to participate.

As for myself, I struggled with whether or not to participate.  I kept telling myself, “I am new to all of this and I am not ready”.  Ultimately that little voice won out and I DID NOT participate.  This has been a decision that I have regretted from almost the first day.

Here are the 5 things I learned by NOT participating:

  1. Don’t be scared of a new challenge even if you have no idea of what you are doing.
  2. Take a risk whether it is picking out 30 items of clothing that are interchangeable or something much bigger than that.
  3. Be willing to be silly and accept that things usually don’t go as we expect them to.  Expectations are highly over-rated!
  4. Don’t sit on the sidelines and watch everyone around you having all of the fun.  Jump in and have fun with them.
  5. What would have been the WORST thing that could have happened if I had participated?  Bloggers descending on my home and ripping up my clothes for bad fashion choices???  Seriously!

My new found wisdom has made me realize that these lessons not only apply to the next fashion challenge, but to my every day life as well.  Next time another challenge is presented to me, fashion related or much bigger and complicated ~ I will jump in, keep my head up, promote confidence and enjoy the experience where I can.  Even if I do fail, I will be a winner just for trying and taking a risk!

Thanks for letting me wax poetic and don’t be surprised if sometime in the future I am participating in my own private 30 in 30, just to prove to myself that I can do it.

Deets: Striped denim shirt/GAP, brown velvet jacket/J.Jill, jeans/Old Navy, shoes/Unisa, earrings/Handpicked, necklace/Charlotte Russe.


For my outfit today, check out Brett’s blog.