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Show me your shorts! – A blog event

01 Aug

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Daily outfit and style tip, wearing ivory shorts, peach blazer, blue suede platform sandals

Now, get your mind out of the gutter! This is my story. I have never worn shorts except for running, outdoor park and beach days or hanging around the house. This is relatively new to me, I was initially inspired by a picture that Stephanie of The Loudmouth posted of herself some months back. All of a sudden, it seemed like everyone was wearing shorts but me. Alright, not everyone but it was my perception at the time. I decided to give it a shot.

Daily outfit and style tips, wearing white shorts and vintage ivory blouse

I first wore them on a date with my hubby, it seemed like a pretty safe way to dip my toes. Next, I wore them to a friend’s party. One thing led to another and next thing you know, I finally did the unthinkable, I wore a pair to work last week. I had attempted the week before and chickened out. Yes, I do that sometimes.

It might come as a surprise that I had to really push myself to do this given that my outfit choices are not particularly conservative. I wear a lot of bright colors and I have tattoos but this was just new to me. I saw it as a way to step outside my comfort zone, something I’m actually comfortable doing. What I mean is that I like the challenge of pushing myself to do something new, something different. There’s a lot of personal growth to gain from taking chances. It’s easy to play it safe, I fall prey to complacency often.

Then I see someone wearing shorts and I’m intrigued and inspired; I know I must push myself repeatedly in this life and step up. It is only through trial and error that we get to realize our potential.

It isn’t the initial fear or hesitation, it isn’t the discomfort that defines us, it’s what we do with it when we experience it. How are you defining yourself?

There’s a song on Paul Simon’s Graceland album called “Further to Fly”. I think of it as my personal anthem. As long as I can dream, as long as the cycle of life continues, there is further to fly. Now I’m wearing shorts with the sass of someone who’s done it all along. You know I’m keeping an eye out for that next challenge. Whether it be sartorial, physical or professional, it will inevitable be very personal.

Won’t you join me?

Send me your photos of how you’re rockin’ the shorts and in two weeks, on Monday, August 15, I will post them and link back to you. My goal is to inspire you to challenge yourself and share with others how you’ve done it. Every time we push ourselves, even doing something as simple as wearing something we don’t typically wear, we grow as individuals. You’re helping me grow, let’s do this together.

I’m calling out to all you lovelies who are already wearing shorts to show us how you do it and I’m calling on those of you who don’t wear shorts to go for it, dip your toes in that water, the temperature is just right. Send me your photos at flyingfabu [at] gmail [dot] com by Friday, August 12, with a little blurb either about your outfit or the experience of wearing the shorts. Let’s make this happen!

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Top: Ivory shorts/H&M, ivory lace top/Nordstrom’s, peach blazer/Nordstrom’s, long beaded necklace/Nordstrom’s, orange skinny belt/thrifted, blue suede platform sandals/Barcelona. 

Bottom: White cotton eyelet shorts/H&M, vintage Bergdorf Goodman blouse/thrifted, ochre elastic belt/Anthropologie, gold shimmer tights/Urban Outfitters, steampunk dragonfly necklace/gifted, hand-carved wood earrings/Braindrops.

 

FBFF Q&A: Labels, good or bad?

15 Jul

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Daily outfit and style tips, wearing green sweater, yellow dress, rust tights

Have I mentioned how much I love We Love Colors lately? I was complimented on my outfit at least four times yesterday while walking around because of those tights. Those TIGHTS! Where did you get them? 

I ordered them online from WeLoveColors.com.

Check my archives going back a few months and you’ll see how many colorful tights I own. I live in them three quarters of the year. They’re incredibly comfortable, they wash well in a mesh laundry bag with the rest of my clothes. I hang them to dry and they bounce right back. Are you sold yet? You should go order a pair or two. I’m partial to the more opaque microfiber but I expect to branch out with my next order.

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This week’s topic on Fashion Beauty Friend Friday is about labeling ourselves and each other. Is it doing more harm than good? How do we personally feel about labels? Read on to see what I have to say about it.

FBFF: As a someone who writes/blogs about fashion, have you placed yourself into some sort of blogging category?

FJ: Well, I think of myself as a daily outfit blogger, not because I blog daily but I blog about my daily outfits. Honestly, I’ll write about whatever is on my mind so the pictures speak to the outfit part and the content just captures vignettes of my life. Though this did slip by the wayside recently, I’m re-committing to perpetuating positive body image with deeper articles. Hopefully this comes across in my regular posts, also.

FBFF: What keeps you from or encourages you to label yourself as a certain kind of blogger?

FJ: I think broader categories are helpful in giving me a vision of how I move forward on this path and helpful to those looking for such. I’m not particularly afraid that I’m creating an impression that can be so neatly tied up and packaged that it defines me as a whole. This is one of many, many labels that make me who and what I am. The issue for me is when a label becomes judgment or dogma. It’s no different to me than saying, “oh, you like jazz? Check out the jazz section.” You like to see what people do with their everyday look? Check out what The House in the Clouds is doing. Kinda like that.

FBFF: When picking blogs to read and follow are you drawn to ones that indicate a certain group or way of thinking/being?

FJ: I never really defined it that way but I like bloggers who are likable. My criteria for that is personal, I’m sure every blogger is likable. There are many that make an impression on me in a way that leads me to believe if we worked together, we’d hang out. Whether it’s the tone of their “voice”, what they chose to share about their lives, my gut response is my safety check.

FBFF: Do you think there are benefits in labeling yourself or others?

FJ: Absolutely. As I mentioned earlier, I don’t think a label is a complete judgement of who you are. Is there anything wrong with saying you’re a lifestyle blogger if that best defines your intention? It makes it clearer to me what your intention is with your blog and I can decide for myself it my interest include lifestyle or not. Labels, categories… they’re all ways that help us find our tribes. This system goes way, way back in our evolution and there are many benefits with identifying your tribe.

I think that there can also be fear around being labeled or labeling oneself because it becomes a public declaration of how we are defined. We believe that there is no wiggle room, that we cannot evolve or change but that’s not true. I used to be Goth when I was a kid. It’s pretty obvious I’m not any longer. It’s ok, change is good and labels don’t have to be rigid or permanent. We hold the key.

FBFF: Agree or Disagree – We’re all just people; we don’t need all the labels.

FJ: Both! The labels aren’t the problem, it’s how we use them. There’s no problem if they are used as adjectives that assist in creating part of a whole, understanding the fluid nature of personal and professional evolution. The problem is when we are unforgiving and limited in our view.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting this topic. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

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My palette is very retro today. I think I match the late 60′s wallpaper in my dining room. Unusual colors combinations can sometimes work so well together. Although the outfit was apparently quite a scene, it was a good scene! I didn’t mix warm and cool hues and stuck to wearing warm, yellow-toned colors. I think that’s what made such a bright combo work so well. When in doubt, play it safe by keeping all your tones either warm, or cool.

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Mustard yellow dress/ModCloth, chartreuse cashmere pullover sweater/Bloomingdale’s, ochre elastic belt/Anthropologie, rust tights/WeLoveColors.com, platform sandals/Urban Outfitters, vintage resin daisy necklace/thrifted.

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Filip Jach

 

 
 

As the dust settles

29 Jun

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Daily outfit and style tips, wearing green and white dress, ochre elastic belt, gold tights, platform sandals

 

This is the blogging equivalent of dine-and-dash, it’s more like blog-and-dash. It’s been a busy week since our return. While most of my life is back to normal, I’m still struggling to get all the loose ends tied, blogging and regular exercise being the two primary things of importance that are crying out for my attention.

It was Fil’s birthday yesterday.

I’m using that as my excuse this week. We had a lovely dinner at his favorite restaurant in San Francisco, Prospect, followed by a cocktail at Bourbon and Branch. Then we called it a night, it was only Tuesday after all.

 

Daily outfit and style tip, wearing short black dress, black tights, black boots

 

I went from demure to 80′s rocker chick for the occasion. I couldn’t help but pose next to the first layer of new curtains I put up right in front of the wall I painted last weekend. Nesting ahoy! Also, it was raining outside. Not just drizzling or misting, pouring rain!

See you later!

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Garden dress/H&M, ochre elastic belt/Anthropologie, gold sparkly tights/Urban Outfitters, platform sandals/Urban Outfitters, aqua bangle/picked up in Costa Brava, geometric black dress/H&M, black tights/unknown, black slouchy boots/Nordstrom’s, sparkly infinity scarf/gifted, necklace/gifted.

 
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Packing for vacation, part 2

23 Jun

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I posted the first part of packing for vacation yesterday when I found my missing Friend Friday piece. Here lies the moment of truth. If you didn’t catch my updates on The House in the Clouds’ facebook page, following is a quick recap of the last three weeks.

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Daily outfit and style tip, honeymoon in Paris

Daily outfit and style tip, honeymoon in Paris

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We started our honeymoon in Paris and stayed with one of our best friends for five days. (I’m going to be writing about my observation of Parisian style on Style Pint’s blog soon and will keep you posted, check her out in the meantime.) Paris was warm, we walked a lot as expected. It was an easy city to dress for. Our schedule was nicely paced and our dinners were fantastic.

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We then flew to Barcelona, picked up our rental car and drove to Calellea, in Costa Brava. The bed and breakfast run by British ex-pats was absolutely charming, I think of this as our first honeymoon suite. The small coastal town was beautiful and dreamy, there’s nothing better to me than the Mediterranean Sea and coastline. Light rains fell intermittently though the days were still warm. We spent one day exploring a coastline trail and subsequent little pockets of beaches.

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After Costa Brava, we hit the road and spent the next week driving through the Pyrenees. The temperature cooled as most of Europe was hit with a cold and wet spell. The rain didn’t stop us from hiking twice but it did get us sopping wet! I dressed for comfort on days mostly spent in the car.

We wrapped up our northernly drive with a few days in Gascony for some Armagnac tasting. We stayed at a bed and breakfast in a former mansion. The food was divine and the service was attentive and inviting. One day was devoted to visiting a couple local producers and tasting their wares. This experience was truly unique, the proprietors were warm and welcoming, spending hours showing us around. The weather was still cool and drizzly throughout, I found it challenging to dress in my summer clothes and kept bundling up with scarves.

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Hitting the Basque country, we made a quick detour to see the Guggenheim in Bilbao before dropping off our car at the airport and returning to Barcelona. The next four days were spent walking the city, taking in the sights and being enthralled with Gaudi’s architectural genius along with staying up late. The weather was hot and the style was casual. The cool and wet spell was finally over.

After four days, we caught a plane back to Paris, had one last mind-blowing dinner with our friend and flew home the next day.

Here’s what made it into the suitcase:

  • Dresses, 3: 2 short, 1 maxi. Report: the purple stretch jersey dress was perfect for wearing alone in Barcelona and layering with leggings on a cooler day in Gascony. The lightweight orange summer dress was perfect for Calellea and Barcelona, it was pretty but casual enough for the coast. I’m sad to report the maxi dress never made an appearance. It was too casual for nice evening dinners and would have been great for Barcelona. I admit I forgot about it on the couple days it would have been perfect for.


  • Shorts, 1: Dressy cotton. Report: I dressed up these shorts a few times, they worked well for days in Paris and Barcelona, and again on our last night’s dinner in Barcelona.

 

  • Pants, 3: Cargo, seersucker, stretchy. Report: The cargo pants were worn numerous times in Paris and through the cooler days. The seersucker pants were so versatile that I wore them in every city. The stretchy wide-leg pants were my go-to pants for the day-long drives and long flights because they were so comfortable with their four-way stretch.

 

  • Tank tops, 2: 1 plain solid, 1 dressy. Report: The casual solid salmon tank got a lot of wear, both alone and under one of the looser-fitting tops. The dressy pink lace tank top was only worn once.

 

  • Scarves, 2: 1 warm, 1 lacy. Report: I got a lot of mileage out of the warmer shawl but only wore the lacy scarf once or twice.

 

  • Tops, 3: 1 print t-shirt, 1 over-size sequined t-shirt, 1 tunic. Report: The white t-shirt with a blue floral print was a favorite. I washed it twice, it looked good with practically everything. The over-size sequined t-shirt was worn numerous times, too. Same with the tunic. I kept rotating shirts during the cold wet week through the Pyrenees, it was just too cold to wear dresses.

 

  • Cardigans, 3: 1 lightweight lacy, 1 cashmere, 1 cotton kimono style. Report: The lightweight salmon cardi got plenty of wear but I only wore the orange kimono style once. The cashmere aqua cardi was worn every day that it wasn’t hot. How am I not sick of it yet? You’ve probably seen me wear it all winter, it’s the softest, warmest thing.

 

  • Shoes, 4: 1 sandal, 1 dressy shoe, 1 flat comfort shoe, 1 flat stylish shoe. Report: The flat stylish sequined shoe gave me a blister on day one which made wearing the dressy shoe really painful, I tucked the dressy shoes away for the rest of the trip. The black Dansko sandals were my favorites, the straps across the tops were adjusted according to the heat factor and foot swelling. The flat comfort shoes were the warmest to wear during the cold spell but were too hot and binding on the hot days.


There you have it. Overall, I did very well and got a lot of wear out of almost everything. At the last minute I threw a pair of thick black yoga pants into my suitcase, I still had so much room to spare. They turned out to play a very crucial role when hiking in the rain, I had only brought a pair of lightweight hiking capris and would have been freezing all day. I also added a couple nicer dresses which I wore several times.

The winners: The purple jersey and orange lightweight dresses were tied. The seersucker and stretchy pants were tied, also. The white t-shirt won out over the other t’s, it was polyester and dried very quickly after being hand-washed which kept it fresh. Overall, the cashmere aqua cardi and black sandals took the prize.

The losers: The maxi dress, the dressy high heels and the lacy scarf were lowest on the totem pole. I wouldn’t have missed them. Not too shabby for trying to plan for so much diversity in activities and weather.

For more general and location photos of our travels, check out The Husband’s blog. He painstakingly documented regularly with a brief description and a handful of photos. It was truly incredible!

I also want to extend a special thanks to my guest bloggers, it was such a relief knowing you were in good hands in my absence. I hope they’ve made new fans out of you!

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Filip Jach

 

 
 

Confession

02 May

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Daily outfit and style tips, wearing white shorts and vintage ivory blouse
A sophomore attempt

I have a confession to make. I have never before in my life dressed up a pair of shorts. Not until last month, anyway. After seeing Stephanie of The Loudmouth and her friend Bryn rock the shorts in Vegas, I knew I had to try it. I dipped my toes, so to speak, at my friend’s birthday party knowing I was in a safe place should things start feeling awkward. As it turns out everything worked out just fine. I’m always amazed at how trying something new can feel so daunting.

I figured if I could pull it off once, I can pull off again.

I picked up these litte babies a few weeks ago, the eyelets and the fact that they’re made of organic cotton did me in. I had a vision of wearing them out on a date. We were invited to a tequila tasting in San Francisco on Saturday, which we followed up with dinner at a new restaurant. It was a fairly warm late afternoon and I had my coat with me. For those of you who don’t know San Francisco’s weather, it rarely gets hot and often gets chilly in the evenings, hence the precautionary coat. My outfit was incredibly comfortable—of course it was—I was wearing shorts! I was even complimented which is always a nice treat.

Daily outfit and style tips, wearing white shorts and gold tights
The gold tights are very shimmery

We tasted about six brands of tequila; starting with blanco, continuing with reposado and finishing with añejo. If they offered a special reserve of some sort we tasted those also at the end. The concept behind tasting the blanco first is that it’s still young and the forward flavor is representative of what will be the foundation which carries into the more aged reposado and añejo. If you don’t like the blanco at all, it’s likely that you won’t enjoy the more aged tequila of that harvest either.

And you thought this blog was just about fashion.

This is what happens when you’re married to a man who knows his spirits. A little is bound to rub off. My favorite tequila of the night was the Casa 7 Leguas. As much fun as it was to taste tequila there was only so much stimulation my palate could handle before calling it quits. As you can imagine, we had a lovely time.

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Go for it! Be adventurous and daring, try something new! If it feels daunting, give it a trial run when visiting close friends just like I did. You’ll be more comfortable and should there be a wardrobe malfunction you can all have a good laugh.

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White organic cotton eyelet shorts/H&M, vintage ivory blouse/thrifted, gold tights/Urban Outfitters, ochre yellow elastic belt/Anthropologie, suede khaki shoes/Earthies, steampunk dragonfly necklace/gifted.

 
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Pin it! A new love affair

20 Apr

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Daily outfit and style tip, wearing lilac cashmere v-neck, yellow belt and ivory lace dress
Lilac details and dragonfly necklace
Daily outfit and style tip, wearing lilac cashmere v-neck, yellow belt and ivory lace dress
Matching the lilac pansies in my garden

 

I recently went thrifting. I’ve been on a mission to recreate an outfit based on a DKNY outfit I saw last week. As a personal challenge, I want to do it from thrifted items. So far, I have a shirt and blazer along with all kinds of additional unrelated pieces, such as this lilac cashmere pullover sweater. It’s soft and lovely and so light and perfect. I have a particular fondness for cashmere.

The steampunk-inspired dragonfly necklace is another anniversary gift from my hubby. I guess seven years gets you two gifts. I like that.

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I’ve been asked to participate in a Pinterest feature through the end of the month as one of many style bloggers who’ve recently discovered and fallen in love with it. Pinterest is your personal online pinboard. Simple. You see an image of something you like, you “pin” it. The application captures the image and url, you save it into your “board”.

Take the concept of tearing an image out of a magazine and pinning it to a cork board. On the internet. You can organize, categorize, share, tag, comment; it’s full of the social networking features that most of us are familiar with. You can share your boards and see others’. You will be hooked.

I discovered it recently when I saw a tweet mentioning it. I checked it out and have been using it ever since. In fact, it’s what I used to capture images for my post about the five trends I was looking forward to this spring. I’ve also started pinning ideas for DIY’s along with ideas for my living space and places I want to travel to.

Here’s the coolest part.

I’ve been invited to solicit comments from you, my readers, about how you would choose to use it and to let me know if you’re interested in signing up. I have been offered fifteen invitations to pass along.

Check out how I’m using it.

Pinterest The House in the Clouds dashboard
My dashboard, showing a few boards
Pinterest The House in the Clouds pins
Some of my pins

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Don’t be afraid to mix and match unusual colors together. The lilac sweater and ochre yellow belt are not your typical combination but made a beautiful pair. If you feel reticent to try this, start small with a scarf or a belt.

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Lilac cashmere sweater/thrifted, ivory lace dress/Jeremy’s, ochre yellow belt/Anthropologie, purple tights/Hue, purple patterned scarf/The Gap, steampunk dragonfly necklace/gifted, silver and mother-of-pearl cuff/Lois Hill.

 
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FBFF Q&A: The rules of engagement

31 Mar
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Guess what? I’m really excited about this, I finally set up an official facebook page for The House in the Clouds. I’m still trying to figure out how to integrate a widget in a way that I find aesthetically pleasing. It feels painfully slow to be hindered by the reality of a full-time job and personal life, not to mention the stack of laundry decorating my office space, formerly known as the dining room. Check it out!

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Daily outfit and style tips, wearing blue and coral pattern blouse with navy skirt and gold belt
Snuck away from a desk for a few to snap these on a beautiful afternoon
Daily outfit and style tips, wearing blue and coral pattern blouse with navy skirt and gold belt
We call this pose “looking for snails”

 

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We want our blogs to succeed however we have chosen to define that success. Most likely, we want to gain followers, fans, loyalty, even acclaim of some sort. We want to be recognized, we want to influence. It’s a daunting task at best, completely overwhelming to digest as a whole.

Our mothers warned us not to be too boastful, to play nice and to say “thank you.” Where is that fine line that we are supposed to ride, one that engages and encourages without becoming as annoying as a late night infomercial? How do we get there? What are the rules?

This is this weeks Fashion Beauty Friend Friday’s topic. Read on.

FBFF: Guest posts are a good way to gain exposure. What do you think is the appropriate way to go about securing a spot?

FJ: Personally, I’m a big fan of developing and nurturing connections. I make the most effort with those whose persona and voice appeal to me, those I would have just as likely been inclined to get to know in person. Once I feel that I have this type of rapport, discussing anything is easy. A dialogue and friendship already exists. I treat my online friendships with the same courtesy I extend everyone else, I don’t really have a specific tactic.

FBFF: Leaving comments is essential to growing your blog. But how can you leave a comment without coming across as “Follow Me. Follow Me!”?

FJ: Don’t make it your objective. It’s assumed you want to grow your blog but be cool, be genuine. People can tell when you’re not really into what their blog is about. Honestly, it’s just plain ol’ weird. We’re not little kids anymore. I would never walk up to a total stranger and ask them to be my friend and offer to be their friend. Where else in life is this acceptable for adults? It strips integrity from the action.

FBFF: We’ve all gotten a mass email at one time or another asking for blog exposure, a link exchange, etc… But the mass emails don’t work. How do you make your email stand out from the crowd?

FJ: There’s a huge difference between spam and a conversation. An email blast purely to promote my blog is marketing, more specifically, the worst kind of spam. I care to foster community or have a conversations, not be detached or irrelevant in the context of a group. It would be disrespectful in that context. Tweeting to people who have independently chosen to follow my blog is acceptable. Spamming within the confines of a group is using that group disrespectfully.

Here’s an example of how I did recently ask for support from some friends for my facebook page. Firstly, I had an easy, realistic goal: to reach over 25 “likes” in order to claim my name. Secondly, I sent an email to my best friends. Not everyone in my address book, that would have been really uncool. I sent an email to my absolute closest friends, those who have a vested interest in my success and would not be put out in helping me out in this fashion. I don’t make it a habit to do this so I didn’t worry that my actions would be interpreted as annoying and careless. They came through. Fantastic!

Why did this work? They know me, they like me, they support me. I laid out what I was hoping to achieve and how they could help. I made it clear and I only sent out one email. Why would a group of people who don’t know me want to help me? What’s in it for them if I have not made any attempt at developing a rapport with them? That’s reality. If I want support, I create and become an active participant in that group or community. Being purely self-serving is shallow and easy to ignore, it’s certainly not a likable trait.

FBFF: In interacting with other bloggers, where do you draw the line between seeking support and begging for exposure?

FJ: Seeking support is valid, we all benefit from a helping hand. We help, we get help, it’s a nice way for the world to go around. There’s really no line to draw, they may seem similar from afar but I know the difference between the two and I would never confuse one for the other. My actions speak to that very clear distinction.

I’ll speak loudly on this: there’s no integrity in begging. DON’T. GO. THERE. Don’t beg, Don’t plead. You want advice or support, just ask for it. Be genuine with your request. One hundred people is no more or less valuable than a single one. That is my absolute truth. It’s easy to get caught up, it’s human nature to compare ourselves to others’ successes and failures in order to assess ourselves. Every follower, every person who digs what I’m doing is an individual with their own worth, they’re not lumped in some category and boxed up to go. So why beg for exposure? I have it. It’s right here. If only two folks read my blog today, guess what? That’s two valuable humans. People aren’t numbers. There’s never a good reason to compromise ones self-esteem over anything.

FBFF: What’s one rule of engagement error you made and how have you remedied that?

FJ: I don’t recall making any. I took my time observing and learning before dipping my toes in the water. That just happens to be the kind of person I am. I might be all kinds of things but one would be hard-pressed to call me clueless. I pay attention, listen to others and I learn well. And no, I’m not going to point out my flaws to counterbalance that statement.

Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting these questions. Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!

 

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I matched my belt and tights to one of the colors in the pattern of my blouse. It provided contrast nicely without being jarring or too matchy-matchy. It was a way to keep the outfit colorful without introducing yet another color. The somewhat sheer tights are a sparkly ochre yellow which made them fun, but the sheerness kept the sparkle from becoming overwhelming.

 

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Blouse/ModCloth, navy blue skirt/MaxStudio, elastic belt/Anthropologie, sparkly tights/Urban Outfitters, brown vegan suede boots/Munro, necklace/Linkel Designs.

Photos: Filip Jach

 

Connecting with readers

12 Dec
It was really foggy today and felt somewhat ethereal

Hand-made bead and necklace, gifted, (lucky me!)

My first purchase in 30 days

The holidays are officially wreaking havoc on my life as of right now. I’m a planner with a mild, yet debilitating, case of Type A at the moment; I officially feel behind. I have a to-do list which loosely outlines all the ways that my scheduling abilities are failing:

  • Christmas card designed and mailed, no
  • Christmas tree purchased, no
  • Christmas decorations installed, no
  • Christmas presents made, no
  • Christmas baking planned, no
  • Baking ingredients purchased, no
  • Holiday parties attended, yes, one

I blame being under the weather for some of it. The rest I attribute to having high expectations of what I, SuperFabu, can achieve in less time that anyone else. If I figure out how it’s done, I’ll let you know. As of now, I just got off the phone with a friend who will help me get a tree. FTW!

Let’s turn back the clock a little to Friday, shall we? I’m digging these Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday questions, the topic is on reader connectedness.

FBFF: How important do you think reader connectedness is to the success of your blog?
FJ: It depends on what metrics one uses to define success. Personally, I’m currently defining is as a way to share, entertain, inspire and connect with others. If I can inspire a reader, or get a chuckle out of them, that makes me feel like it’s worth the effort. Based on my criteria, I would say reader connectedness is important.

FBFF: What do you do to draw readers in and create that writer-reader bond?
FJ: I try to keep the content fresh and personal enough to engage. If my content was totally dry, it would disregard the human nature of bonding. One way we bond with each other is through similarities. If I tell a story that someone can relate to and I tell it in a way that keeps the reader engaged or entertained, it’s more effective.

Some time this can also take form in replying to a comment or sending a personal response. I think being present and validating my readers is important.

FBFF: What is one way you could improve this connection?
FJ: Remain thoughtful in what I’m sharing in a public forum, and do my homework and research so that I don’t end up becoming so predictable that I’ve become dull. Follow up on comments that are posed as questions. Create a dialogue.

FBFF: Is there a blogger you think does a great job creating that writer-reader bond? Why? 
FJ: Absolutely! Quite a few, actually. The ones I’m thinking of make me feel like if we met we would share a laugh or two while trading tips and stories. Their tone is personal enough to get a sense of their character, which I find likable. There is a nice balance of personal and relevant content for me to feel a kinship while learning something valuable.

FBFF: What do you do to cultivate new readers? How do you get them to your site in the first place? 
FJ: I think this goes back to an old saying, which I’m certain to be paraphrasing: Be the friend you want to have. What I interpret this to mean is if I want to generate curiosity and get people to comment, then I need to be that person. When I’m inspired by someone’s outfit or post, share that with them. Why wouldn’t I want to be that person? I don’t have tactical marketing strategies only because this is my labor of love. I’m not interested in putting on a business hat at this point though by no means would I judge another for doing so. There are plenty of clever ways to get readership, I may at some point dedicate effort to doing so, I don’t know what the future holds. At this point, I’m pleased with my new blog baby. I’m enjoying the process of learning, I’ve only been blogging a short while.

I will add that being visible and participating on a more public level, such as the FBFF definitely helps. Ultimately for me, I was interested in other than numbers, I like being part of a community dialogue and meeting new people.

I will not discount using social networking like Twitter or Facebook, which I have been using regularly anyway. I also added my blogs to my email signature and anytime I mention one of my friends, I always send it to them, which they seem to enjoy.

I’d like to thank Katy of ModlyChic for putting together these questions. She’s got tips on how to wear over-sized sweaters featured today, (yes please!)


Deets: Teal tanktop/Free People, aqua cashmere cardigan/Bloomingdale’s, ochre elastic belt/Anthropologie, black ankle cigarette pants/BDG, Urban Outfitters, hand-made beaded necklace/gifted, black leather ankle boots/Munro.