Pounding rain means indoor photos
Make mine a mini
We hide behind our computers, our faces lit by the light of the screen while we type first thing in the morning, after work and before bed. Sometimes encroaching on that treasured sleep. Then, some of us post pictures of ourselves; we edit, scrutinize and approve how the world will see us. The phenomenon of blogging is fascinating. This genre, this tiny niche of style bloggers is varied and diverse. We oscillate between the written word and imagery, sometimes showing preference to one over the other. How does it all add up? What role does it play in how we see ourselves?
This is the topic of this week’s discussion.
FBFF: Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed?
FJ: Yes. Taking pictures of myself almost every day made me realize that my perception of myself is a little skewed. The mirror doesn’t capture me in an active state. While I may be posing, the camera is capturing me when I can’t actually see myself, it doesn’t care what I’m doing, it just captures it. Sometimes it’s worse than what I see, other times it’s better.
FBFF: Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself? If so, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway?
FJ: Yes, but I accept it for the most part. I don’t draw attention to it by calling it out on my blog because the same way that I don’t notice what other people are often self-conscious about, I assume most people don’t notice what I’m self-conscious about. Why draw attention to it? I wouldn’t necessarily call it being self-conscious, more like self-aware. I don’t care that my teeth are crooked and I have an impressive overbite and that sometimes it makes my lips look funny. (See, now I told you!)
I will not post a picture where those attributes distract from what I do like. Do you want to look at my teeth or my outfit? Besides, those traits exists. They’re the way my friends see my face, everyone is used to it. I’m the only one who cares and gets surprised by it over and over again. “Hey! That’s not really how I look!” Actually, it is. When the camera takes a picture of me with that stupid expression, guess what? I make that face all the time and just can’t see it. You just gotta laugh about stuff like that, what can you do?
FBFF: Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image?
FJ: I’m fascinated by the changes. I sometimes try to imagine what I will look like when I’m much older. I think I will have the same happy eyes, the same strong nose, lots of sun spots and happy wrinkles. I hope I always give myself the nutrition, sleep, love and lifestyle that keeps my perspective healthy. I think my perspective is pretty good now.
FBFF: Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision?
FJ: I’ve gotten a lot less self-conscious about it pretty fast. In a way, blogging is license to pose. If I’m in public, well, of course I’m posing for a shot, I have a blog. Little mind games are funny that way. But seriously, I try to have a sense of humor about it. I know that when I don’t photograph well it’s when I’m not feeling well either in my body or my head. The remedy is almost always more sleep and exercise. It’s also made me more accepting of what my good and bad attributes are. I was already that way but the process is definitely an accelerant.
FBFF: What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?
FJ: No one is perfect, no one is above self-scrutiny. If you strive to improve, do it with a gentle loving touch because you’re going to be at it all your life. Self-improvement, body image perception, these are not phases. We live with our bodies until we expire. Be accepting of what you can’t change. Those differences are what set us apart and make us unique. Be cool and enjoy yourself. Your life is good.
Thank you Katy of Modly Chic for crafting these questions based on my suggestion (yay!). Friend Friday is an opportunity for fashion and beauty bloggers to share their thoughts on a specific topic and read what others have to say on that same topic. For more information, check out Modly Chic and welcome to the wonderful world of blogging!
As I mentioned earlier, it’s Go Red for Women month. Some of us bloggers were inspired by fellow blogger Andie to participate in bringing awareness to heart disease in women by wearing red on Fridays. I finally got my red in on time. This 80′s dress from eBay was such a find. I wore it previously like this, this time I wore it with the cowl neck hanging asymmetrically and the waist belted. I made this dress a mini-dress! I put it in the challenge because I knew it would be a challenge to find different ways to wear it. It’s so unique. And I always like a good challenge.
Deets: vintage dress/eBay, black tights/unknown, vegan faux cowboy boots/ModCloth, owl necklace/Urban Outfitters, black belt/unknown.
Photos: Euan Rannachan